Should we do it?

Question

I'm 32 and my wife is 31.Our daughter is 6 years old .My wife and I are thinking about whether we should have another child,but were so happy now that our daughter can finally do things on her own.I feel that we can do things together that we could'nt do before.Starting over with a new baby just seems like a hassle.We need to decide whether were going to have another or get fixed.

Answer 1

Personally I see where you're comming from, but on the other side she is only 6 not 16. Honestly she's still a little girl, think about her growing up alone. Comming from an only child I would recomend considering a second chil. I know it seems like a lot, but think of the joy you would give her to be a big sister, and in the long run it should be well worth it. Think about if somthing tragic happend to you and or your wife later on in life, she'd be alone. Honestly I wish I would have had a brother or sister except in my case my mom just couldn't conceive anymore. I would recomend making her part of your decision see how she would feel about being a big sister to a brother or sister as well! GOOD LUCK,

Answer 2

Welll, if you enjoyed raising your daughter and it brought alot of light and love into your hearts and lives, then having another would do just the same.

However, if you both think that now is the time to start doing things together you had to put off for several years, then NO, no baby should even come into the picture. IF your having mixed feelings about another baby, you might find yourself chooseing the wrong decision if you decide to do so, and that would cause you emotional problems on down the road.

By having at least one child, and later on you both feel you should have, you can always put your daughter top on your lists and if you find the real need, try adopting an older child or even having a foster home.

BUT the best will be when your daughter introduces you to your grandchildren. :-)

Answer 3

When you have another child the work doesn't double, it almost triples. I think that since your daughter is 6 things will be easier for you guys in the sense that the daughter can help with the new baby for some of the little things. It really depends on you both and where you are and where you want to be in your life. You are still young to do it...my sister is 33, will be 34 in november and is pregnant with her 3rd child.

Answer 4

I have 2 children that are 6 years apart and I will tell you this, it is VERY different going from 1 to 2. The demands are high and you realize just how much older you have gotten in 6 years. Everything is harder the second time around. I love the heck out of my son....the youngest, but I wont candy coat it, its damn hard. The middle of the night feedings, diapers changes, ear infections, doctor visits, no freedom, packing up everything but the kitchen sink when you go somewhere, colic, lack of sleep, sex life goes way down. On the bright side, you have another beautiful soul whom you look at and adore making everything I just mentioned all worth it. My 2 kids love each other immensly.

Answer 5

You both sound like great parents and you are both young and seem to love every bit of being a parent....your beautiful daughter is 6yrs old and this is a great time to try and have 1 more baby,,your little one will be so excited and she will get to grow up with a new baby sister or brother how great is that....give it some thought only because from your question I feel you both deserve another child and this child deserves to have you both as wonderful parents...bless all of you ..sureilll

Answer 6

If you have your daughter's interests in mind, then you should definitely have another. Having a sibling is ALWAYS better than not having one.

If you have you own interests in mind - it depends. In a practical sense, it would help to have two; what if something happens to your daughter? You would still have the other one. But, at the same time, as you noted, it IS a hassle. So it would depend if the hassle is worth the benefit to you, or not.

P.S. Some people want to have kids for the sake of having kids... I don't quite understand that. You don't sound like you "want" to have another kid - but there may be practical benefits to having one.

Answer 7

Unfortunately, this is not a question you can ask anyone on here. The decision to have another child is a huge one that can only be answered by you and your wife. If it sounds like a hassle, maybe one child was enough.

Answer 8

I think although you're excited your daughter can do things on her own, it would be a blessing to have another baby.
After the second one, you can "get fixed". If your financial stability is great and you're marriage is strong, why not have another child? Although it could be a bit of hassle with babies, children are gods gift.

Answer 9

I think having a sibling is best i in my life preferred to have them a little closer together but i think two is better then one, but you and your wife are the only ones that can truly know for sure when you are done. And i do agree that babies are demanding and it is great to get them more independent and out of diapers.

Answer 10

The answer is up to you and your wife, but thinking of when you are gone from this world it would be nice to know that your child in not alone, she would have someone to hold on to...