OK ! I was married 2 and a half months ago, and I met this man. He came into my back yard and saved me from an abusive relationship, and now WE are together.... I am in my 40's and he is in in his LATE 20's, but says he Loves Me and he is in the workhouse now for about 4 weeks, and has 4 weeks to go and I am living in his house, and........ well??????? HELP!!!!!!
2006-10-24 12:23:50 · 15 answers · asked by barb b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have gone back and read the other postings, but like many others, I'm not sure what it is you are looking for?
Do you just want to know if he loves you? Or do you want to know if it is possible for him to love you because of the age difference?
You say he is in the workhouse, for a few weeks. So are you lonely, scared the ex will come find you, feeling like you don't belong in his home, what?
If he says and acts like he loves you, then why are you asking?
Age is nothing but a number and i don't think we can really help who we fall in love with. If he's good to you, makes you happy, and fills you're heart with love, then who cares about the age?
Maybe only you!!!! Good luck!!!!
2006-10-24 13:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by dreamteam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming a "workhouse" is jail??? If that is the case, move on. If I am wrong, then wait for him to get back and see where things go.
2006-10-24 19:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to use this opportunity as a stepping stone to independence. At least when he's done with you, and ready to move on to a real relationship, you will be able to get on with your life. What you have now isn't gonna last, make the best of it. Join a support group, go to a therapist, get depression treatment, take classes, reconnect with old friends. Do something with your life.
2006-10-24 19:31:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it exactly you need help with? I think jumping from one relationship to another is a whole problem in itself. Take some time to think about your past abusive relationship so you dont continue choosing the wrong type of men. With no thought time you dont learn and without learning anything there is no growth. You will keep picking losers upon losers.
2006-10-24 19:29:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you talking about? you ran away from your husband and are hiding out in some guys house?
You really need to get some independance. I understand that you are afraid from your last relationship, but a 40 year old woman shouldn't spend her time cowering and waiting for her barely adult lover to come back from a business trip.
2006-10-24 19:26:44 · answer #5 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you need help with?
Sounds like the start of a good relationship. If you love him, tell him. If you're not on that level yet, explain to him that you care deeply about him but that you haven't reached love yet.
2006-10-24 19:26:33 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient for him to get out of the workhouse and welcome him home in a special way.
2006-10-24 19:39:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
saved you ?? gal use your brains...the prince charming who comes in his white horse...is just a story..you just want him cause you have a bad relation...and him???too young ....get out of that abusive relation and stay away from men for atleast 2 years...gives you the time to recoup...then you decide who is the prince charming
2006-10-24 19:29:04 · answer #8 · answered by serengeti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is a workhouse?
2006-10-24 19:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i would dump him and get someone your own afe yes he did save you.still when your 60 he'll be 40 you just have to find someone your own age and he has to find someone his own age think about it his mom can be the same ages as you or a year younger just dumo him!
2006-10-24 19:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by divachick95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋