I don't understand why I act the way I do. My husband, whom I have been married for four months, is so good to me. He does everything to make me happy. He surprises me with gifts and he is always there for me, very loving and thoughtful. I sometimes act ungreatful toward him. I behave like a spoiled brat. I don't want to be this way, but for some mysterious reason, as much as I would love to, I just can't find myself 100% happy. What is wrong with me?
2006-10-24 12:20:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You did not Married the one you love your still in love with your ex boyfriend that married someone else.
The best thing to do is love the one your with!
2006-10-24 12:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever felt totally disillusioned with life? Ever felt that things were so bad they cannot possibly get any worse?
The cruel truth is, it can get worse. This is by no means a reason for you to get even more depressed. Rather, why not appreciate and give thanks for what you still have?
Rather than let the bad things get you down, it is better to focus on the positives instead.
Maybe you lost your car. At least you still have your house, and your legs. If you lost an arm, at least you still have the other. Maybe your business or career failed. At least you still have your family, and your life. The list goes on, you get the idea.
Focus on the positives. Appreciate and take care of what you have while you still have them. Life might not seem so bad anymore then.
Sometimes we need reminding how wonderful our lives are. The fact that you are reading this makes you one of the richest people on the planet, but that's just the luck of the draw, right?
True to an extent. We are lucky to be born into the families and the countries that we find ourselves. And luck does not require guilt. We don't choose to be lucky, we just are. Luck is blind.
But we rushed to donate to those affected by Katrina. They were affected by dumb luck and we helped, because we know how easily it could have been us. And because they were in our face - we can only care about what we can see.
2006-10-24 19:33:26 · answer #2 · answered by Starbuks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think too much about everything. You probably are clinically depressed you should talk to a doctor about it. you should remember to not worry about the things that you cannot control and be at piece with. Try to figure what is stressing you so much or what it is that is making you so unhappy and try to fix it in your life. Only you can do that and I think what you have been doing so far is having other people decide how your going to feel that day. You shouldn't let your happiness be determined by other people only be yourself. These are just a number of possibilities that could be happening with you. Go to a doctor and see what they say. But try to figure it out on your own.
2006-10-24 19:31:13 · answer #3 · answered by hmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there is a deeper problem with the relationship. If you say you dont want to act the way you do then dont, you control yourself, if you cant stop then there has to be a reason for you to act this way, if he gives you everything maybe you are just spoiled and your acting like a spoiled child would.
2006-10-24 19:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♫♥ Crystal ♥♫♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't believe in happy.
Seriously.
You can't be 100% happy because you're not allowing yourself to find joy in the small things. You have a great husband... most women would be 100% happy just knowing they had a great man by their side. You have to learn to appreciate the things that you have before you lose them.
2006-10-24 19:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept the reality that no one is ever 100 % happy. Learn to deal with the realities of life and contribute more to those that love you. He seems like he is doing his share. Life isnt about only having happiness, it's about finding someone to get through it with. Sounds like you have someone you can do that with. You might also seek some counseling if it continues. I admire you for having the honesty to admit your weakness. Good luck to you.
2006-10-24 19:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you always got anything you want effortlessly?
Have you alway been in control of the relationship?
Have men always been submissive to your will?
If the answer is YES, then it probably has to do with how you were raised and what you are accustomed to. Maybe you need a challenge before you can be appreciative of what you have.
Best of Luck,
Drew Bryant
http://cheatingsigns.blogspot.com
2006-10-24 19:24:55 · answer #7 · answered by drew.bryant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to know where his limits are.
Its childish, but human.
The problem is you might start to take him for granted and then start caring LESS about him because you think he idealizes you. The next thing you know you've done something really selfish and he walks away leaving you wondering how things fell apart. FYI it started HERE.
2006-10-24 19:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are afraid when things get too good in a relationship because it would be painful to lose it. Could be abandonment issues. Did your dad leave you during childhood?
2006-10-24 19:23:54 · answer #9 · answered by martin h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may require a little medication to even yourself out.
2006-10-24 19:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋