i DON'T KNOW BUT i AM GETTiNG MARRiED NEXT MONTH TO A FAMiLY FRiEND JUST TO HELP THEM WiTH THE iMMiGRATiON STATUS. THEY SAiD THAT WE CAN DiVORCE iN 3 YEARS. MONEY iS iNVOLVE. i AM SiNGLE BUT THEN i JUST LOVE SOMEONE ELSE....i JUST DON'T FEEL LiKE BREAKiNG THE VALUE OF MARRiAGE.? WHAT SHOULD i DO??
2006-10-24 12:20:01 · 12 answers · asked by maureen a 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow...that must be heavy on your heart and conscience. If you don't mind me asking...how old are you? The reason why I am asking is you have to ask yourself if you can put your life on hold for three years in exchange for the monetary compensation. I guess it depends on how much $$$ you're getting to justify the sacrifice. Then again, you will struggle with your belief/moral issues as well. Getting married is such a beautiful thing to do with someone you love; especially if it's your first time. So can you live with yourself knowing that you shared your first marriage with someone who you don't love in exchange for $$$??? Some people can and others can't. It truly depends on your current situation and if you really need the money or not, but if you are already having doubts now it will only get worse when you are in the current situation. Maybe your family is pressuring you too hard and you don't want to let them down. You probably feel as though you're their only hope and you feel bad telling them that you can't help??? You really need to communicate your concerns to them, and please don't do something you are unsure of. After all, this is your life and you only have one life to live...happy or not. Don't ever do anything that you know you'll regret later. You mentioned you love someone else. Well, what does he/she think about it? Either way, you are the ONLY person who can answer this question no matter what anyone tells you. I know my advice probably didn't help much, but if I was faced with the same situation I would probably be just as confused and torn like you....Keep me posted and good luck with your decision. Remember to always take care of your mind, spirit, and body... ; - )
2006-10-24 12:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is money really more important then love? Money cannot buy you happiness nor can it make you fall in love. I think you should hold onto your morals and be with the person you love. Why should you marry someone to help them immigrate? It's quite selfish of them to ask you for such a thing and it goes against the true value of marriage.
Also, do you really want to waste 3 years in a marriage with someone you don't have any feelings for? You'll only be put in a position where you're bitter and full of regret.
Don't make the mistake, explain to them that you've got to think for yourself, not for others or for money... and you have to do what makes you happy, so you can't marry this guy.
2006-10-24 19:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok here is how you should do. marriage is not a game, you doing this to help out a family's friend that's is very nice of you, you should look at the other side like there's alot of papers involve.i mean alot your bank account, your everything will be monitor by the ins people will go after you for everything, tax people will do the same, not to scare you or so on but you have to talk to the person that you like and let him know explain it to him that this is what you are doing and if he understand and still want to be with you, i dont think it's a problems at all...but most important of all do you really want to do this?? if you involve in this situation you gotta think of the consequences that no matter what you have to wait 3 years to get this over with..again, i applause you for helping out the folks that need help, money i dont think is the one you concern about now.....but just alittle hint, dont open conversation about these stuffs out side because by law i dont think this is ok thing to do...good luck for finding your true love
2006-10-24 19:46:50 · answer #3 · answered by kevin n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, this marriage is a sham, you know it and he knows it. You don't owe this guy anything in terms of "breaking the value of marriage' because you are ALREADY breaking it by going into it for something other than love.
Just date while you are married. Also, I really caution you NOT to do this, you sound way too young and I think you'll really regret it and get hurt. You should get out of it while you still can.
2006-10-24 19:23:36 · answer #4 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's illegal first off what you are doing, no matter the amount of $$$ offered to you, it won't cover your a$$ if you go to jail...I say, it's not a good idea. You should really think about it. INS isn't dumb either, they will keep an eye on you like a hungry hawk, trust me, I have a friend in the same situation, it's too risky.
2006-10-24 19:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by ShellBellzGee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all using "marriage" is illegal to get someone citizen status. Tell your family friend that you cannot do it for your own moral reasons.
2006-10-24 19:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1-you can't get divorce within 3years this thing can take forever
and 3 years is a lot when you are not in love
2 -would you still be able to date this guy
if so than go for it
2006-10-24 19:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did this person you are marrying tell you that if immigration finds out that you are marrying him/her so they can become a US citizen that YOU WILL be fined around $250,000!!!!!!!!! If you NOT marrying for love, DON"T marry.
2006-10-24 19:29:45 · answer #8 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say no. What's the problem?
2006-10-24 19:22:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
then if you feel this way , don't do it! friend or not , you are being used! pd. for your service's or not ...it ain't worth it. let him go back to where ever he came from!
2006-10-24 19:23:02 · answer #10 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋