I have been married for 14 years and at this point in our relationship, we have been through many different stages. My husband and I have a relatively open relationship… so let’s just say I am not as concerned about me feeling some "chemistry" with my boss , as maybe another woman with a more "conventional type" of marriage might say, view it taboo. It is still kind of innocent and thus far has been unspoken. Although it is obvious enough that a few of my coworkers think he shows extra attention or favoritism with me. I can't even remember if it was him or me that began this little "fun" situation. In favor of my position, I presently know so many couples who are in more "open" marriages/relationships than ever before. So how can I find out if his relationship is similar (or open) without being utterly forward and making things uncomfortable for either of us?
2006-10-24 12:07:19 · 9 answers · asked by A Nameless Font 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are speaking of adultery, right? Then you might as well not be married so you can have your flings. I'm of the opinion that "open marriage" is having sex whenever and with whomever you please but still stay married. That's just immoral and you shouldn't be asking questions when you appear to know it all.
2006-10-24 12:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
All things considered I'd advise against something with your boss. Too many legal problems, and even if you don't care for the consequences, it could wreck your boss's career.
I'm an experienced husband with some experience in, and personal solutions about, raising the ante that has worked for other couples. Can't share them here. E-mail me at blue_diamond_49@yahoo.com or by Messenger at blue_diamond_49 and I'll go into more detail with you.
2006-10-24 19:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by David W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that you may want to cautious only because of your job situation. If the attraction is mutual, the signs are there.
I wish everyone agreed with the openness in a marriage. I too have been married and we live very independent lives. The opportunity has not come up for me though.
Good luck!
2006-10-24 19:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by blue 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This situation has red flags raising all over the place.
Open marriages are fine, but your situation is more complex because the man is your boss - and his wife might not feel the same way. Plus you have co-workers who already suspect something is up.
Find a man who's not your boss . . .
Or, live dangerously and improvise your way to seducing him. But be prepared to lose your job, and face some harsh criticism from your coworkers. And be prepared to cost him his job and his marriage.
2006-10-24 19:12:06 · answer #4 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you want an open relationship, or do you want a fling with your boss? They sound related, but aren't necessarily the same. An open relationship means that your hubby could bring home a little "fun" of his own. Are you really going to be okay with that?
2006-10-24 19:10:44 · answer #5 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A question I have is why would you want any relationship with your boss as that will cause needless tension at work, and great difficulties if your relationship with your boss sours. If you want another relationship, I would advise looking outside your office because of the problems that are bound to follow.
2006-10-24 19:11:23 · answer #6 · answered by Peter C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be careful he may want to do you now but after he is through with you who will loose the job...not him.
2006-10-24 19:10:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is interested, he'll make a move. Then you can ask.
Otherwise, I wouldn't say or do anything because your JOB could be at stake.
2006-10-24 19:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Live fast and die in a flaming heap..
2006-10-24 19:16:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋