My friend cuts herself. She told me its her addiction. She means the world to me and i want her to be ok. Her parents know but they havent done anything about it. Is it up to me to help her? She also write suicidal things.. poems, stories, ect. But so do i, but i know that its just a way to take out my emotions. I dont cut or anything close.
Please help.
2006-10-24 11:56:28 · 41 answers · asked by Courtney 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Its up to her family to get her some help. There really isn't anything you can do other than be her friend.
2006-10-24 11:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Best thing you could do is tell your parents, her parents and maybe a school nurse or counselor or something of that nature. Let them put their heads together and see what they come up with. Otherwise, it's just something she'll have to get out of on her own. Let her know you're not happy with what she does and that you wish she could find a more productive way of dealing with her problems and that you are there for her if she needs help coming up with some ideas. Let her know it hurts you to see her in her present state of mind and that you fear the ruin of your friendship if this habit continues. Just get your feelings off and let her know she's hurting someone who really cares and perhaps that could be a start but surely not a guaranteed remedy.
2006-10-24 12:03:18 · answer #2 · answered by will 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the parents know and won't do anything to help then they are aiding in her disorder. Go talk to your school counslor and he/she will do what is necessary for her to get treatment for it. This is a very serious disorder and can eventually lead to death or infection or any number of serious problems.
Please, do whatever you need to get your friend some help. She may dislike you or even hate you for it, but in the long run you will be saving her. This roots from a more serious problem that she needs help with. This is her cry out for help.
Please take a look at this site to get some more information on it to help you and your firend.
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/cutting.html
2006-10-24 12:01:34 · answer #3 · answered by sesamenc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm almost completely sure that she's doing it for attention, if not from her parents, then from everyone around her.
People who are honestly suicidal don't do attention-grabbing things like that, they just go ahead and try. Believe me; more than wanting to die, she likes fantasizing about her parents (or whoever she's out to get) finding her corpse hanging from the rafters or something as the ultimate I-told-you-so to say "You should have given me whatever it was I wanted while I was still alive." Of course, if she's dead, then she can't exactly enjoy the looks on their faces, can she?
Tell her to stop trying to get attention and to do something productive with her life. I'm being totally serious. And you can stop worrying about her. Every case of suicide I can think of came from people who didn't tell anyone, and didn't cut their wrists, unless it was to slice them open and sit in a warm bath. One guy from my old high school unexpectedly set up a camera and shot himself in the head one morning in front of the gates. Another girl at my college hung herself from her bed with a belt. Neither of them cut their wrists. Your friend wants attention, bottom line.
Sure, this sounds cold-hearted compared to the other "get help" answers, but it's the truth. If you want to talk to her about it, tell her that if she's going through tough times, she'll learn from it in the end and the suffering will ultimately make her a better person. If she's not seriously suicidal, she's not going to "seek help."
Lastly, give her some St. John's Wort. Should help the depression, or pseudo-depression/emo state.
2006-10-24 12:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by Dumblydore 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is tragic, and your are a good, strong friend to want to help her. Try to help her gain self-esteem, give her lots of support and encouragement. Don't be judgmental, saying she's a bad person and all that junk. People who self-mutilate are depressed and anxious, needing attention but not knowing how to get it. Sometimes their emotions are so low cutting themselves is the only way they know how to feel anything. Maybe she's a victim of sex abuse, and this is the only way she can convey her self-loathing. This girl really needs some professional help. Maybe with your support, she'll find the strength to get it. Good luck, I hope any of this helps, be strong and Goddess Bless.
2006-10-24 12:04:17 · answer #5 · answered by orphanannie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-24 12:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sooo sorry but there are some things that i have
1. get her to a doctor
2. get help from a teacher right away!
3. tell your parents
4. give her attention
5. get some other friends to help
6. if your a christian you should also do this too... pray to the lord for help he could give you an idea.
i hope this helps i know i will prey for her tonight and every day
2006-10-24 12:10:45 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a counselor, if you are in public school. Your friend needs help. The cuttings are a plea for help, even if her parents do not or will not do anything! Be the best friend you can to this girl. Her very life may depend on it. Do all you can, if it is not enough, do not blame yourself. At least try!
2006-10-24 12:01:29 · answer #8 · answered by Robert A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be a cutter and yes there are other more healthy ways to go about things. Writing is good, and there is nothing wrong with that. If that is all she is talking about is suicide you might just want to talk to a counselor or something about it. One tip, and I in no way condone cutting, this was a tip that was given to me, it is better to make a thousand smalls cuts than one big one.
2006-10-24 12:00:44 · answer #9 · answered by girk_420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutting is a sign of serious depression. If you really want to help your friend be as positive as possible. Be upbeat. Take her outside. Don't ask her about whats going on too much. When she starts to seem a little bit more positive, ask her to promise that she'll speak to someone (like a school counselor).
2006-10-24 12:00:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would tell a trusted adult (either your mom and/or dad, a close relative, a favorite teacher) about this. It is up to her parents to do something. If they haven't done anything yet, they obviously do not understand how serious the cutting addiction is.
2006-10-24 11:59:24 · answer #11 · answered by J.Z. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋