I have recently got back in touch with a girl i was in love with over 20 years ago. We both went our separate ways. She says i was the only person who ever really loved her.. I have since been married a long time..what do you reccomend i do..I cant get her out of my mind.
2006-10-24 11:51:33 · 15 answers · asked by kev 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's a living fantasy. The more you think of her the better she will get. All the way till you get a divorce and find the difference between the fantasy and reality. Your fantasy will be a disappointment, because no one can live up to the expectations of a fantasy, your past life then becomes your new fantasy, "If only I would have stayed". The other option is to mess around with her behind your wife's back, and the you get the pleasure of living a lie. Your honor is shattered, your virtue a joke. Lies are made to cover lies until you don't like the person you are anymore. And you think back to the day when someone on Yahoo answers told you it's best to create your living fantasy with your wife. No regrets, no mistakes, just happily ever after.
2006-10-24 12:42:03 · answer #1 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yhat was a huge compliment you got there.. wow, it must have made your day and it is still buzzing around in your head.
I have no idea of the state your marriage is in, but even if it is practically dead, you might want to listen to a Garth Brook song, (even if you don't like him at all). It's called Unanswered Prayers (nothing religious!!).
20 years have changed you (if not there is something wrong with you) as it did this girl, who after 20 yrs can hardly still be a "girl".. You might be surprised what the girl you were in love with way back then has turned into. But then again.. you never know. Are you sure you want to find out and at the same time may be get your marriage into trouble?
I wish you much wisdom, whatever you decide!
Love from Holland!
2006-10-24 12:06:19 · answer #2 · answered by icqanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your feeling is very normal. She brings back a time in your life that was probably very fun where things were all new and exciting. We all feel nostagic when past loves come back into our lives, but remember, the relationship ended then for a reason, and you have a whole relatioship with someone else. Is this old girlfriend worth losing your wife over? If the answer is yes, then proceed. Another question you may want to ask yourself. How would you feel if your wife was back in touch and doing what your doing or contemplating? Get the woman out of your mind. Your romaticizing her and " the way it was"
2006-10-24 11:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that having her back in your life brings up a lot of wonderful memories and desires, but the truth is that you have a different life now. The person who you are thinking about is the person that this girl used to be...the person who you used to love and who used to love you, but you were able to move on once, and I suggest that you do your best to move on again. Just remember her as a fond memory.
2006-10-24 12:00:22 · answer #4 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, she is a different person than she was 20 years ago and so are you. So in essence, she is just a stranger you met on the street. Get over it and pay attention to the one you are married to.
2006-10-24 12:01:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be realistic, is all I can say. It's easy to keep "loving" a person if you don't have to put up with the day-to-day mundane crap for 20 years. If you feel that your relationship with your wife is lacking - try and work it out; be committed to your marriage. If you feel that you can't be - do her a favor and leave. I guarantee you will find that grass is NOT greener out there.
2006-10-24 12:00:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay faithful to your marriage. Don't forget that was 20 yrs ago. You have already moved on and got married, leave well enough along.
2006-10-24 11:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are still married, forget about it. You made a commitment to your wife. if you are not attached, wade into the waters slowly. Things change over time.
2006-10-24 11:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by Robert A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop building her up in your mind before she lets you down by just being herself. Is it that you cant get the idea of being happy and in love out of your mind or her?
2006-10-24 11:54:09 · answer #9 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the past in the past...you are a married man...its til death do us part, not til my ex girlfriend comes back and wants me til we part...
2006-10-24 11:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋