the guy i like is 3 years older and none of my friends like him and none of them will give me a straight answer why...but the guy they all and i mean all want me with is the one guy who has hurt me the most (emotionally) he would say one thing and do another and they all kno this but still want me with him and he is the one filpin out the most about this other guy and i dont kno what to do cause if i listen to my friends i might miss out on a rele nice guy but if i dont i could end up losen them and him in the end and i rele like him and it has been a year sence i liked someone this much and it happens to be a year sence the other guy and i broke up and sence then every one wants us together idk what do anymore...
2006-10-24 11:50:02 · 7 answers · asked by Victoria Ashley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should not go into a relationship for others. It should be for your self. You are the one who has to live with the decision. Especially if it does not turn out well. You've been with this guy, it did not work out. Move on, he isn't going to miraculously change. Your friends, if they truly care, they would not force you to be with someone you no longer have romantic feelings for. Your ex is just jealous. Just be careful with this older person. Are you old enough for a mature relationship? Can you handle the loss of a few friends, because of your decision? If yes, go ahead and choose the new guy.
2006-10-24 12:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits (FWBs) who do not live together are still pretty committed to each other and respectful of each others boundaries and limitations. There is a distinct tenderness that usually exists between them. I don't see that here. When I had this kind of relationship, we did have our own separate lives, but we also spent a lot of time together and had great sex. We sometimes took trips or sometimes just spent a whole evening together and she would leave around 11:00 PM or stay with me the night. The intimacy we would not have missed for the world. When she was busy with other friends or business associates or trips elsewhere, we would always hook up when she returned. Thus, it was a dynamic relationship with lots of passion and love. Hopefully, you guys would want to develop or feel something like this. FWBs are not just friends--they are lovers and thus thus the keepers of each others souls.
2016-05-22 11:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by Tamisha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart, sweetie, that's the only thing that matters, not your freinds or the other guy. You're a smart girl, you already know the old guy is bad news for you, and if you had true friends, they would see that and want only the best for you, not someone who uses you and hurts you. It sounds like you need new friends, they are not looking out for your best interests. Go for the really nice guy that you like, and try to make your freinds understand. If they don't, you really don't need them. It sounds like you have more sense than them, and they are shallow and mean anyway. Who needs that? Not you. Make yourself happy, not your friends.
2006-10-24 11:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by orphanannie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My gosh! How could they call themselves your friends!? They're not being very supportive, if you ask me. I wouldn't listen to them. You need to be your own person. And by doing that, making your own decisions. I'm not saying you're not, but anyway. I wouldn't be with someone who constantly hurt me. What's the point? I'd become friends with the guy I liked and see if he wants to go out with me. Then he can protect you from that meany that's hurting you! And then you'd have some support and something to look forward to in life. ;)
2006-10-24 11:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when comes to stuff like this u can't listen to your friends all the time be selfish if the other guy is alwas hurting u then he is realy taking u for granted i say go for it with the othe guy
2006-10-24 11:56:47 · answer #5 · answered by LT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, dear, you have to do one of the hardest thing in the world--think for yourself. It's hard to do but it is very important that you do.
2006-10-24 12:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that if they were your ture friends they would stick behind you no matter what!!believe me the fiancee that i'm with no one liked at all but i found out pretty damn fast who my TRUE friends were and who wasn't!!!!true friends stick by you no matter what though thick and thin no matter what.
2006-10-24 11:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by *~*Ash*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋