I lost my parents a few years ago. I was never really close with my extended family but after these deaths I feel like I don't know them at all.The people I thought were supportive and loving to me are now hateful to me. I was wonderiing if any else had experienced this.
2006-10-24 11:38:32 · 6 answers · asked by chchhart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Death is an eye opener and reminds us that time on this earth is quick and limited and it has to change you as a person being left behind. If you spend all your time worrying about how this is changing others you will miss the transformation that death will make of you.
There is a saying i love. "What the Caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly" Richard Bach.
Everything in life is open to interpretation honey, death, birth, loosing jobs, lovers, etc.
I love this saying because of how I have interpreted it in my life. to me it means, before a life changing event occurs and while it is happening, i sometimes feel like the world has ended and i will never ever go on to better things, but after i have gone through the event i have learnt to be more. which brings me closer to being a butterfly.
It is not your responsibility to be a crutch for everyone else right now. just use this to become a better person.
Good luck honey.
2006-10-24 11:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by alilovespete 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family lost a member two months ago (my cousin who was 20) and its hard to guage how it is going to change us, I mean I know we will never be the same, but I know what you described will never happen with us. I have been talking with my oldest cousin a lot more than I was before this and both of us were really messed up about it because she was so much younger and we never really knew her like we wished we would have...but hateful I just cant understand that...
2006-10-24 18:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother and I became closer after we lost our parents. But, you should remember that you will one day build your own family (husband/wife; kids; grandkids). If your extended family isn't around to see all that, it's their loss. Maybe, though, some of them are grieving, too, and aren't able to support you right now as you would like. Maybe some feel guilty for not being closer when they had the chance. Hopefully, things get better.
2006-10-24 18:46:34 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes pretty much i know what you feel. in my case i started to hate my other part of my family n friends cause they said they had my back but they never did intill there was a family death. and i felt like it takes somthing so bad to happenfor them 2 have my back. and then after a while they all forget what even happen while u are breaking ur brain and soul. n all u get is u will be ok. nobody is gonna feel what u feel so u gotta be strong n keep ur head up n be cool
2006-10-24 18:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by jose m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah after my uncle died 2 years ago post of my family tost me aside like they didnt even know me then it all started gitting better then my cuzin died and then they kinda did the same but i just push them aside if there gonna be like that you can to id say **** them
2006-10-24 18:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by clown_killa_13361349 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
death either brought family close or farther apart
as I get older I realized that death actually brough family farther apart,maybe because what you guys have in common was your parents
Good Luck
2006-10-24 18:44:09 · answer #6 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋