my friend almost committed suicide!?

Question

my best friend was thinking of suicide last night!
her parents have been really hard on her lately...so i guess she's finally breaking down.
they ground her for everything she does, and she just doesn't feel like enduring it anymore. she's always getting yelled at, and never has freedom anymore.

i'm really scared for her.
she's also going into depression and anorexia.
what should i say?
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her mom's takin her to a psychologist..but then refuses to leave the room. so it's not like sara's (my friend) gonna talk about her mom while she's there.

her parents also blame her for the depression that she's had in the past. "your depression has made us lose all of our friends"..they told her. which isn't gonna help.

Answer 1

You need to be strong, You are going to have to carry her.
You must remind her about the beauty of living. You shall have to stand by her, give her strenght to face the world and esp her parents.
If her parent are really so horrible, isnt there some one you can tell.
Always remind her of how blessed she is to be living and tell her she must choose to live.
Suicide is not the answer.
She also needs to open up to her parents. She should let them know how unhappy they make her.
She should have the courage to talk about her mother infront of the shrink. Let her get all of this of her chest she will feel better.
Always remember suicide is the coward's way out.
Is she a coward?

Answer 2

I tried committing suicide when I was 16 yrs old. As a result, I had liver damage until I was like 25 yrs old. My dad found me, but I was too embarassed to go to the hospital. I couldn't move for days...even after I threw most of the pills up.

If she is talking about it, she wants intervention. She needs help, and it may be out of your league. Sometimes you dont get a lucky and somehow live through it. A friend of mine from high school committed suicide a few years ago. There is no closure when someone takes their own life.

Talk to a counselor, have them to intervene. But depression only gets worst if the person doesn't get any help. She reached out to you, so you have to make the best decision for her safety.

Would you rather she be mad at you and live? Or would you rather live with the guilt that maybe you could have saved her if you did something?

Answer 3

You need to tell her parents or a school counselor. The school counselor can talk to her in private and find out what is going on without being personally involved like the parents. Then it will be up to the counselor to contact the parents. You don't even have to tell anyone you are telling the counselor...its all in confidence.
Keep an eye on her...never think it is all a bluff....you never know.
And I would rather you be safe than sorry with your friend. Keep the conversation going and let her know that YOU care about her.

Answer 4

Adolesence is not only the most difficult time in a persons life, but the shortest. Tell her to be strong and try to focus on school. The only thing that lasts from adoleselce is a good education. Going out is boring until your old enough to drink anyway. Comitting suicide before you even get to the best part of life is lame. Be supportive, but don't feed into her depression. NOTHING is that serious. Tell her to wait till she has to pay TAXES!!

Answer 5

You know what. I when I was younger, Got yelled at and never had any freedom. To top it off, I was depressed. I tried suicide once, but just got the upper layer of my skin sliced. Couldn't do it. I know my mom loved me, but at that time, I had no one. I had lots of friends Aunts uncles, and counselors at school but I couldn't tell them what I was going through. You know How i survived. By telling myself it'll be better when I get my own life. I can make it through this . Also, I thought if this is how bad it hurt on earth and if I were to kill myslef, then In hell would feel exactly like this maybe worst, only difference is that on Earth I can escape it later but Hell, it's enternity. be there for your friend. good luck

Answer 6

every child goes through what they feel like are the worst days of their lives.... ...she has to be strong and take ownership of when she does things wrong and gets grounded.. ...if her parents ground her for everything then maybe she should think about those things and not do them anymore... ...this world is dangerous and when you get kids of your own you will do what it takes to keep them on the right track...i know she does not want to hear that right now but, as a friend you can just tell her that you are here to listen to her but, there are kids with no parents and kids with so much less than her in the world who wake up everyday just grateful to be alive... ...if you are her friend you will not blame this on her parents but, let her know that she has to take ownership of every minute of her life and know that tomorrow can be better if she choses it to be... ...good luck

Answer 7

Well thats a hard situation to be in. You need to talk to her. Be there for her, and explain to her that their will be better times for her. If she kills herself she will never experience the good things of life. Such as graduating from college. Starting a new career. Marrying that special man. Bringing a baby into this world. She will never know any of these things if she gives up to soon.

Tell her this also "Strength comes from choosing to fully trust, pray, and praise, our circumstances may not change, but in the process we change" Also buy her a bible. Read to her anything from psalms.

Answer 8

OMG! i have talked about suicide b 4 2 but i never actually meant it! u really need 2 take time 2 go 2 her house or something and talk 2 her or maybe tell her to talk to her parents and tell them how she feelss..... whatever u think u should do! GoOd LuCk!=]

Answer 9

Have her read Thirteen Reasons Why it is an amazing book an has saved tons of lives. I undersand you are no really close, but for right now try ask he to hang out with you and your friends. At lunch ask her to sit with you. Be there for her if she needs to talk, just talking really helps people. I that doesnt seem to help definitley tell an adult this is her life we are talking about.

Answer 10

I know excatly how you feel. I lost my best friend a week ago. Her parents were goin' through a divorce and she put a gun to her head and pulled the trigger. All you can do is try and talk to her, if not try to tell her parents. That is about the only way you can help.