If you are married and your husband has cheated on you more than five times is it okay for you to do the same.

Answer 1

Instead of doing the same thing he has done, you need to find some self respect. How could you feel loved and valued if he has done this to you. You certainly wouldnt feel very good about yourself. Cheating on you more than 5 times is not love and certainly no basis to keep the marriage together. Find yourself a man who trully loves and appreciates you...this man obviously doesnt. I would say you need a huge dose of self confidence because what he has done to you would make you feel less than human. Not all men are cheaters, but your husband is. Find someone who knows how to love you properly. Find someone who can give you what you deserve. I think you are in for more of the same, so what is the use of hanging onto to someone like your husband....he has no respect for you, let alone knowing what love is. Dont do this to yourself, dont bring yourself down to his level....find someone worthy of your love.

Answer 2

You weren't an idiot to believe him. He was the idiot to betray you. It's good to be able to trust and put our trust in someone else. I don't blame you for being hurt. You were betrayed. I think that you need to look at the man he is now and not the man he was. Maybe in his mind he thought of dating as a non-commital kind of situation. It doesn't make it right because he outright lied about it. But people do change and as long as he's trustworthy now then there is hope for your marriage. I'm so sorry that you were betrayed by the man you love. I know I'd have a hard time with this one too. Wow, good luck with this one. Try to talk calmly and rational if you can and get to the bottom of what you want to do. Not sure why he felt the need to tell you and hurt you after all this time. Maybe he felt it would help him to tell you this crap but that is a selfish approach. He is kind of selfish and thoughtless about how it may affect you and the marriage. Good luck and god bless you.

Answer 3

So let me guess you think that 2 wrongs don't equal a right but five does? OK so math was not your strong point. Five times? Why is he STILL your husband?

Okay maybe that was a little too quick, maybe you feel you need to stay with him for the Kids sake? Nope, what are you teaching the kids?

If you insist on staying with him you might want to discuss the open marriage idea so he can use to the idea your a cat on the loose just like him.
Best of luck

Answer 4

I dont believe it is ever ok to cheat. If your husband has cheated on you 5 times then maybe your time would be better spent at an attorneys office filing for divorce or at marriage counseling. Dont add to the problem by more cheating, even if you decide to walk away from the relationship you can at least walk away with a clear conscience.

Answer 5

Alright no offense, but why are you still married to him after 5 times?
You deserve freedom. The whole point of marriage is to be with just that person. If you wanna see other guys, just get a divorce. Don't get me wrong, i think divorce is wrong, yet in your case.....it might be the best option. Then you can do whatever you want without guilt of cheating on him.

Answer 6

You'd think so but men are different than women. You could end up getting hurt, or getting someone else hurt. Men dont get over stuff like that, it wont make you feel better. I tried it...I screwed his BEST friend, and did it in a way I knew he would find out. He forgave me with his mouth, but not with his heart. That one thing was worst than the 100 times he cheated on me. You end up feeling worst in the end....if he is going to continue to cheat, either live with it and accept it, or leave. Those are your two options because you having sex with someone else isn't going to make him regret it so much he stops doing it to you. He will only do it more, and be more callouse about it.

Answer 7

I am so tired of hearing how those man think that they can hurt a woman not once but continue to do it over and over again
my advise is if you will feel better to cheat go for it
but you must not have any regret after
and I would advise you that you and your husband seek consoling or both of you make the decission to have an open marriage or divorce
that will be more healthy
Good luck

Answer 8

i can tell you that you think it puts you on a level playing feild. but in reality it does nothing but increase the gap already between the two of you. the only thing that can help you (if you want to save the relationship) is counseling. i can guarantee if you cheat too there will be no trust from either of you for the other. and it takes trust to make any realationship.
i have been there and i cheated to get back at him. it caused more turmoil than it was worth.

Answer 9

Once could possibly be forgiven as weakness, but five times is taking you for an idiot. When you let him away without consequence, like a child the behaviour will be repeated. Wake up and smell the coffee, take action (but not by doing what he did).

Kick him to the curb girl, you deserve much better than that rat.

Answer 10

No...that's just called backstabbing. Honestly, if you truly loved him, you wouldn't even think of cheating on him because he did. Either way, this does not matter, I say there's only one thing that makes sense after five times of being cheated on. Ask him what his problem is and what he wants...see his answer...most chances are its going to be totally fake and retarded...and then you have a perfect chance to say you know what you're effin trippin if you think im going to take your bullshit! and get a divorce.