i.e. the love you feel for your parents, the love for your kids, and then the love for your spouse....all a different type of love. Now, more than likely you will never stop loving your parents and usually only mental people do not love their kids but a spouse is so easy to fall out of love with sometimes (considering the U.S. has a 51% divorce rate)......why is this?
Sorry, I do not know if this in the correct category...oh well.
2006-10-24 11:11:36 · 14 answers · asked by Led*Zep*Babe 5 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Kathryn: but you see your kids every day and can predict what they say/do...why don't people get bored of them or get annoyed enough to never want to see them again?
2006-10-24 11:25:43 · update #1
jo: lol, you know what I mean though...you can't say you've never heard anyone say "I've fallen in love" or "They fell in love"?
2006-10-24 11:27:41 · update #2
Perhaps we are loving our spouses with the wrong kind of love. Perhaps marraige isn't about what I can get out of it, but rather what I can give to my spouse.
2006-10-24 11:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by kooshman38 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it's partly cultural... you're taught from a very young age that family is forever... you can never pick a new mom or a new dad or a new brother... they are your family for life, so it's them or nothin'... and it's in everybody's best interests to stick together through thick and thin, since if you lose the love of your family, all that's left are the people who come and go... and you could truly become alone.
Once upon a time, there was also the concept that your spouse, much like any other relative, is your spouse for good, through sickness and in health, for better or for worse. They might as well strike all that from the ceremony because it is no longer true in any way, shape or form. Let's face it... you're only staying married so long as it's a sweet deal, and once she goes belly-up, everyone will be bailing out from both sides. Reason being, divorce is now considered perfectly normal. But there are still some communities even in the US where it is not considered normal. If you know you will be heartily disdained by your family and friends and neighbors for divorcing (like if you come from a strict Catholic community), then you're not likely to... but if everyone's just dandy with it, then hey, why not!
So the answer is that it's a matter of social acceptability. The American culture at large is fully in support of divorce, but it looks down upon rejection of family members. Love is a social construct more than anything. Divorce is high because we confuse love with that giddy adoration you feel when you first fall for someone... which is a feeling that ultimately goes away. If people loved their spouses as they would love other family members, and not be so focused on sex and adventure, you would not have such a divorce rate.
2006-10-24 18:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by Firstd1mension 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey Led Zep babe,
I saw them in Long Island back in 1973....Seems a long time ago....
I think that everything has to come from the heart, whether it be work, physical love, play,etc. Otherwise you are just wasting your time.....So, as long as it comes from the heart, you are showing love to some degree......
Now, this next answer comes from out in right field a little....but is for real if you investigate more someday....I believe that we have been here on this planet(plane) many lifetimes and have many ties past and present that effect our relationships and family.
Other contributing situations is your human element . Such as what is your sign? What is your Moon in?, and Venus and Mars? That says a lot about your human element on how well you do in relationships,even though we are soul. None of us are prefect,but just do your best.....all you can do....
Yes, the divorce rate is a little scary. Therapists are freaking out and at a loss with many couples. Women are becoming stronger and men are becoming more passive. Women have to work more due to the cost of living and too many other issues. Nothing is stable in this world. People do not seem to have the patience anymore. Everyone wants a quick fix so to speak.
2006-10-24 19:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by medelectric2002 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't fall out of (true) love. In life you progress, and different events force us to deal with issues never dealt with before on their proper levels. Most people fall for the first type of love that is placed on every marketing tool in the country. This kind of love is great for selling things, but can never keep two people together, because the heart needs more than that. But when you fall into true love, their is nothing that can erode it. This is the kind of love people eventually start looking for. It takes a period of time of self-purification before we are able to be ready to receive it. It boils down to human love and divine love, and there is a tremendous gap in between.
2006-10-24 18:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In the Western tradition there are three types of love; filial (the love of family) eros (the love of sex) and Agape (the love of God.
Too often we confuse eros with the other two. Falling "In Love" is almost all related to sexual attraction and tends to come and go with time, yet most decisions to marry are based solely on this (lol...in my opinion).
Lasting love that encompasses all three types is developed over time and with struggle. Things that we seem to lack the patience for in our culture of instant gratification. It's sad really, because the best sex I have ever had had been with women whom I trused and was open to on all levels.
******* is like eating Chinnese food. It's wonderful but leaves you hungry a shot time later. I would suggest to those wanting more that they learn to be patient, disiplined and determined in their relationships as well as sensual, feeling and emotional.
Love between two who become as one takes more than just butterflys and fireworks.
2006-10-24 19:32:22 · answer #5 · answered by Damon M 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think that in the love of a non-relative (as in, spouse) people often get swept up into infatuation, which is a lot of times confused as love. Then there is the "in love" vs. "love" argument. Good topic, I think. I could debate this one for a long time.
2006-10-24 18:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by B. 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well to me, falling OUT of love is a sign that the relationship isntwroking right, fighting, breaking promises, no shows, etc anything that goes bad is a sure sign of falling out of love. To fall IN love the couple must have known each other for a long time, therefore knows what makes one other mad, sad or happy, etc
Again this is from my own experiences so i may be right or wrong...
I hope this helps please feel free to im me or email me about what you think
2006-10-24 18:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by michael_madden04 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Romantic love is not divided into other types. There are just different types of people. Some can awaken that feeling in you and can make you cling to it, some can't.
2006-10-24 19:21:56 · answer #8 · answered by Cheshire Riddle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People see something in someone and 'fall' in love with that person.
Then for so many reason, whether it is they were never really in love or they weren't trying hard enough their relationship fails.
Once you fall in love with someone, I mean really fall in love with them, then you wouldn't fall out of love with them.
2006-10-25 22:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by Engel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love is a single word. If you love someone or loved someone then you will always Love them or you never did. We just disguise it with jealousy, anger, or just say we only "care" about them now.
2006-10-24 20:49:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋