im leaving nov 7th for my very first tour to Iraq. im so scared that when i leave my husband will realize that he doesnt love me and may want a divorce(we have a 2year old). i need peace of mind, and a sence that everything will be okay. How can i feel better about leaving?
2006-10-24 11:05:47 · 15 answers · asked by navyenlisted 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your marriage is obviously very important to you. You are about to make a very big sacrifice for your country. You are leaving your family behind to fight for freedom. You are a brave woman. The feelings you have is only natural. Separation anxiety happens when you have to leave someone you love behind for a long time. You should talk to your hubby about it. Is there something going on in your relationship that might have you feeling a bit insecure about his true feelings? Have there been arguments or infidelity? There has to be a reason why you feel that he might want a divorce if you left. Leaving your family behind, the sacrifice you are about to makes is a big one. You need to have peace of mind. You need to know that your family will be secure and whole when you return. This means that you will have to talk to him, Hon. Sometimes that is hard to do when you are afraid of the answers you might get, but you NEED this. If you can’t talk to him face to face, then start things off by writing him a letter. Tell him what is in your heart. Tell him what you need to take with you to keep you safe and give you light while you are overseas doing battle. You need the security of knowing that he will be there for you. You can do it. It takes a lot of courage and determination to join the army and make it through training. If you can tackle that, you can tackle ANYTHING. You have already proven to yourself and everyone else how strong your really are. March into battle for your relationship which is just as important as fighting the battle for freedom. May God guide and protect you and those you love. :)
2006-10-24 11:45:05 · answer #1 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't feel better about leaving. Separation sucks. Your husband will suffer, you will suffer, your child will suffer! Now that reality is faced lets approach the problem intelligently. Most relationships fall apart because of poor communication. You can't stop your departure so you are going to have to work around it. Savor every moment you have together. Let not one night go by that you are not making mad passionate love. When the day to leave comes this is the part you need to remember! Writing will keep him wrapped up in your memories! The price of a stamp and paper is less than that of a coke. I bet you have a soda a day don't you? Motivate yourself to write everyday. What other options can you think of. Calling is O.K. but when people talk it's just chit chat. When you write, it is a whole different ballgame. E-mail would be better if you have access!
2006-10-24 13:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and your husband have a strong marriage,then I don't think that your husband would divorce you,especially since you have a child between you. It may sound like I live in a bubble-world,but I know that if a marriage is strong enough,it can weather most storms,and your going to Iraq being one of them. It will take a big adjustment on both of your parts,but I really think that if you both trust each other and have faith in your marriage,that you will be ok. Keep the communication going between the both of you,and that will help,and if you are feeling insecure,let him know,he may be able to help you through it. Tell him what you are feeling,and do it before you leave,and I think you will find yourself feeling better about talking it out. What you are doing,defending our country takes a special person,and a brave and courageous person......so hang in there,and God bless you!!
Good luck to both you and your husband,and may you return safely home!
2006-10-24 11:35:03 · answer #3 · answered by roses are red 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very important to speak with him about your fears, preferably before leaving for your tour. Tell him everything. Also while you're away, don't forget to communicate with him. Write him letters or if u can, email him whenever u have time. The most important thing during all this is communication so don't forget that.
My husband's also in the Navy aboard a submarine and it can be very tough, especially since he can't communicate with me unless he gets to port.
2006-10-24 11:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
by talking to him
but as for feeling better about leaving I think it has more to do with you leaving your child & hus to fight in a place where you hear so many bad things about
so try to concentrate on your safety while you are there
and if your husband want a divorce because you are not there that mean he does not deserve you
you will certainly deserve better
But I would advise you to trust in his love
Be Safe
Good luck
2006-10-24 11:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to believe in the relationship that you are in first of all. Second tell him that you are scared that things might change between you. You really need to talk to your husband really. If it's real you will feel it in your heart. Good Luck to you over there stay strong
2006-10-24 11:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to be open with him. tell him what your fears are. He is your husband, he loves you and will put your mind at ease.
he is the only person that can provide you with that peace of mind. ENjoy your love, hold his hand, kiss him, hug him, tell him how much you love him. I am sure he will support you, reassure you and set your troubled heart at ease.
2006-10-24 11:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communicate with him. This is usually the answer to most of the questions concerning the significant other.
2006-10-24 11:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know your true feelings. I'm sure if you have a good relationship now he will stand by you. God Bless you for putting your life on the line for our freedom.
2006-10-24 13:38:42 · answer #9 · answered by dot_909 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is called trust an you need to have a heart to heart talk with him before you leave. know exactly where you stand , so you can consintrate on doing your job over there an please be safe? you are in my prayers already , go talk to your man right now. everything will be ok at home , i bet cha ....
2006-10-24 12:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋