Help! I am on the verge of an affair!?

Question

My wife does not want to have sex any more. I do. I am really attracted to my next door neighbor whose husband happens to be in Iraq and she is attracted to me. How do I remain friends but not end up in bed together. I am afraid one innocent kiss would be all it would take for both of us to head to the bedroom. Her husband is my friend and is a serviceman in Iraq and I would really feel bad to take advantage of the situation but she comes on to me like she is willing. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

Have a serious talk with your wife about what her not wanting to have sex with you is doing to you... also, hear her side - perhaps she has some issues going on.

Cheating is wrong. End of story, no matter what you say to yourself to justify it.

Answer 2

First Off,

Don't do it!

Jerk it off or whatever you have to do but don't Bone Her. She is trouble, and FACE facts she is your neighbor and NOT gonna be moving away anytime soon,

Next she is sending out vibes - Why? Aren't you scared you could Knock her up? GEt a disease .

If you have to CHEAT- do it with a stranger. And make it a ONE nighter. it doesn't hurt AS much

but what I would do is concentrate on your wife and see why she isn't interested in sex? ARE you NOT making sure she COMES. Cause whatever BS some people might have told you- THis is Critical;-

If you are not giving her ORal or Gently with a lubed up hand ( which is devoid of hang nails and ruffness) touching the CLit - and avoiding the vagina until you can feel her come -

then you aren't pleasing her- NO matter what other people tell you.

You need to talk to your wife about why NO sex, and start to do a better job.

I can tell you exactly hwat to do to please your wife , but you need to make sure you PLEASE HER first and not yourself-

other wise your gonna need -
a new wife and lover-

And mabey MR IRaq will have to handle YOUR business.

Think about What your really saying , and NOT about how horney your neighbor can make you!

GET REAL , BUY YOUR WIFE AND THE NEIGHBOR A VIBRATOR- And Show your wife how to use IT>

I am sure the neighbor already knows,

Meg
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Answer 3

If you love your wife and the neighbor loves her husband, don't chance screwing everyone's life up. Take it from experience.
Are there any kids involved? If so, that makes it even more wrong. Can she get pregnant by you? Even MORE reason to keep your pants on. If the temptation is too great, don't go around her. Tell her to stay away. If your wife doesn't want sex anymore, get her some counseling if wining and dining her doesn't work. But it sounds like you are just bored with your sex life and looking for something new and exciting. The lady coming on to you is close and convenient. So if I were you, and you really value your wife and your friendship with the serviceman, stay away from each other. Take it from experience.....affairs cause alot of heartache....it effects not only you and the other party but parents, kids, mutual friends, neighbors, siblings, relationships with them all. It causes you to hang your head in shame.....in front of them all when your wife tells them all. And its not patriotic to mess around on a serviceman who is defending our country. Give him a break!
What if it were the other way around? Get some sex counseling with your wife...find out what the real problem is....the serviceman is out of sight/out of mind but not your wife. Don't do it, please!

Answer 4

You're in a bit of a rut. After the 3rd year and after the 7th year, marriages need to be spruced up. After you've settled into day to day life, things get so mundane. Change things around whenever you can. Make an effort to talk to him on a personal level, not just about everyday stuff! Make sure you've asked him how his day was and how he's feeling. Plan a weekend get-a-way for the two of you. Remember the times before you were parents? Back when you were a couple! Reinvent those times. Don't forget how to have fun!

Answer 5

no u do not touch anothers man's wife!!!! u have a wife???? put your selif in the other situation as if u were the neighbor and so on what I THink you should do is sit down and just realy be open with your wife if she knows then maybe she would give u some Im not big on affair?? //but just take it away from home the next door neighbor is not the best way to go don't do it 2 the guy's wife he is fighthing for you and i so u don't think him that way u give awelcome back home party with a clear head!!!!!!!!!!!!! now thats healthy wisdom

Answer 6

Don't do it! You'll be in danger of ruining 2 marriages- yours and your neighbors'. If you and your wife have problems in the bedroom, you need to seek counseling, not just find a substitute for your wife. Besides, your neighbor isn't probably in her right state of mind right no. All she knows is that her husband's gone, she may never see him again, and she's lonely. Believe me, if you two did something, she would regret it instantly and maybe feel like you're responsible for causing her to cheat on him. Please resist your impulses and head to a marriage counselor so you can save your marriage, or get a divorce and find someone more compatible with you. Cheating is the worst thing you can do.

Answer 7

Snap out of it boy, you need to listen to me!!! You know what's wrong with people today? They have no self control.

What if you were in Iraq and you found out your wife was with another guy? How would that make you feel? Especially if it was one of your friends. You need to avoid this "Jezebel" woman at any cost even if it is your wife's friend. Maybe you need to talk to your wife about certain issues that are bothering you in your own relationship. Oh and you mentioned that "one innocent kiss could lead to the bedroom" well I hope you know that there's nothing innocent about kissing your friends wife, I hope you know that.

Answer 8

What's up with your wife? You guys need counseling right away.

Stay away from the neighbor until things are back to normal with the wife. Think about what you'd be doing: you can't do that to a serviceman. Don't be that asshole.

Answer 9

Yeah... keep your D**k in your pants... her husband is away defending our country and you are thinking about screwing his wife... and he is you friend... and your neighbor... if you are going to have an affair it doesn't need to be so close to home... your heard that an old dog doesn't **** in his own yard... Now for the other issue... betraying your wife is a different story on it own.. if she's not doing it for you... tell her to put out or get out... you have the guts to screw your next door neighbor but not the guts to tell your wife how you feel and how it's going to be or else... How old are you anyway... sorry being so tough on you but this blew me away... your combining a whole butch of sins in one big package... go have your affair on down the road witha single woman if you have to have one....

Answer 10

Yes,the grass aint greener on the other side. Find out what's wrong with wife,it might be physical,ask her to go see her gyn. If you go to your next door to that woman and her husband being in service and also your friend...how could you you even consider having sex with her. You need to stay away from her till you can get your own issues worked out at home.

Answer 11

Dump your wife, move out, as far as possible, forget the ***** next door.And never see or speak to her ever again......doing a wife of a service man while he is at war is so very uncool....if his old lady is looking around she's a loser times 10....get away from her and let someone else suffer the wrath of a man that has to kill for a living!!!!!!!!!!