She claims that she's only going for a drive.
2006-10-24 10:54:58 · 26 answers · asked by techdave1969 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she shouldnt make you feel worried if she is honest and really in love to you. i am not a "positive thinking" person: if i were you i would freak out. but you be calm please. i think you should talk about it in detail with her. if nothing changes, it shows she doesnt mind how you feel, so it is no point trying to trust someone who doesnt mind your feeligns, this relation and steadily going out till 3am.
also, i am agree with some posters. follow her a few times, if you can. or hire a detective if you can.
well.. difficult stiuation.. be calm, and be ready for everything.
2006-10-24 11:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Although that is very suspicious, I don't think it necessarily means that she is cheating, though I think there may be a good chance of it. My concern here is that obviously to her the explanation of going for a drive should be enough for you, but I fear if the roles were reversed and it was she that didn't know where you were twice a week till the early hours of the morning, she would be convinced that you were cheating or hiding some other betrayal from her. My advice is that you talk with her about it, again, since obviously you have already, and if she still refuses to acknowledge that there is a problem, you let her know what you expect of her. There is nothing wrong with having reasonable expectations of how someone who are in a relationship with communicates with you. If she refuses and disregards your feelings, then move on. You have to have trust and communication to have a healthy, happy relationship.
2006-10-24 11:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by Laney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on what she's actually doing. Cheating isn't limited to a particular time of day (or night.) If she's using the time to have sex with someone else, yes. If she's actually going for a drive, then no, but you might need to be concerned about what's going on in her mind that's compelling her to drive around aimlessly at all hours of the night. Maybe she's mulling over relationship difficulties or something. If you two can't communicate effectively about whatever's going on here, it could be as harmful to your relationship as cheating.
2006-10-24 10:58:54 · answer #3 · answered by mockingbird 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time she leaves for that drive tell her you want to take part in riding with her. If she freaks out about it something going on
2006-10-24 11:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always go with ur gut feeling, and trust ur instincts. now come on, where do u drive til 3am? i think u know she is cheating, cause she is. so sorry cause that is the worst hurt ever. find some one else, u derserve better! but i would not follow her, cause u know the answer.
2006-10-24 11:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check the gas and miles on her car before she leaves and when she comes back do the math. Or get in the trunk and ride along!
2006-10-24 11:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by Courtney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds really lame. I dont believe she is going for drives at that time of night. You need to ask more questions.
2006-10-24 10:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by Binky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes cheating.. hate to break it to you.. my mom "was going for a drive" for 3 months almost every night and now my parents are separated and shes at her new boyfriends like everyday..
sorry bud :(
2006-10-24 10:58:24 · answer #8 · answered by flangel80190 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably. Follow her next time! Stay a few cars back or borrow some wheels.
2006-10-24 10:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by cadodevine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends what she is doing until 3am. If she is truly just driving then no, it is not cheating.
2006-10-24 11:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋