Me and my husband have only been married since May but we have been together for 5 years and lived together for 3 I have had 3 cars in both mine and his name I work for Dodge and I can get like 7200 dollars off of an 2006 jeep but to lease you have to have great credit and my just falls under what you have to have anyways my husband could help me get it but he says if I want it I have to get it on my own! This has me really upset what would you do? How would you feel?
2006-10-24 10:42:20 · 10 answers · asked by annastacia_02 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What really dont make since is along time ago befor we lived together he helped buy me a car so I would be able to move in with him (We did not live in same town) I feel like he was just doing it to get me where he wanted me now he has me it is like well you are on your own!
2006-10-24 10:44:33 · update #1
He has a brand new truck I have an 04 sebring my payment would stay almost the same and I have never asked him for one dollar to help me make my payment
2006-10-24 10:49:53 · update #2
my credit is good where I could buy it out right just would not get a good as a deal
2006-10-24 10:51:32 · update #3
Do you think that maybe he feels like he is being taken advantage of? I dont know the details of your relationship or what is going on. But I have done this before in prior relationships where I had been feeling like I was being taken advantage of and I just didnt want to do anything for my ex-spouse. I hated feeling that way and it eventually escaladed into bigger problems. But just ask him why he said that? There could be a lot of reasons dont jump to the worst one. He could just think its not a good idea and know that you cant get it on your own so he knows that it isnt going to happen and he doesnt want to tell its not a good idea or something.
2006-10-24 10:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to lease a car anyway, but what I would do is get my credit straight to the point I don't have to ask him for anything, take my 7200 dollar discount given to me from my company, and get the car I really want; that dodge manufactures that is. To make a smart decision, I wouldn't get a brand new one, I would get one I could double my payments and pay it off in 2 to 3 years. Keep it clean and sharp. Cause he's going to want to drive it, but this gives you the option to say no.
2006-10-24 17:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IS HE BEING A JERK? I hope not. You have been with this man for 5 years but only got married this year May. Ask yourself why did he get married to you? Was it love, respect and all those things or because he needed you for something.
On the other hand, is he reacting this way because you DO NOT NEED A JEEP and your bad credit rating is result of you acquiring things you didn't need?
I could go on and on but if neither of the scenarios apply, you have some soul searching to do.
P.S. If you had substantial assets going into this marriage, hope you have a pre-nup.
2006-10-24 17:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by Notorious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked your husband why he feels this way? Perhaps he feels your current vehicle is still in good enough shape that the expenditure simply isn't a good idea. Perhaps he has other priorities in mind? You really need to talk WITH him about this, without arguing with him. Just listen to him. What's more important, a car or your marriage? With any luck, you'll be with Dodge for a number of years and can buy a car later on when you really need one. Just a thought, Linda
2006-10-24 17:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by bionicbitchofbytown 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset because he is suppose to be there for you when times are hard. Just ask him one more time and if he say's no then tell him it is okay.
In the near future he is going to need something from you and you can then remind him about the time you wanted the car and he didn't want to help you. He will get mad but you are getting even and he's going to have to understand that.
Husband or no husband I would do that to anyone that denied me of a favor for no reason.
2006-10-24 17:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by Gucci S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I wouldn't even want his help. Just stack your money get it on your own. The relationship supposed to be a 50/50 thing. I would be beyond pissed
2006-10-24 18:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a real gem, your hubby. Start building up your independence. Fix your credit. This does not sound like a very tight marriage, if he treats you like a step child. Good luck.
2006-10-24 18:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd buy my own vehicle and tell him don't get any funny ideas about driving it. He didn't help me get it and he's not going to help himself to it. Next time think before he opens his mouth.
2006-10-24 18:14:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he does not think that you need a new jeep.
2006-10-24 17:47:28 · answer #9 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start fixing your credit and get it on your own
2006-10-24 17:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by SAChicky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋