She is a lousy conversationalist and I don't like eating lunch with her, but she always invites herself when she sees us going out. How can we ditch her without hurting her feelings? I still have to work with her every day.
2006-10-24 10:40:21 · 4 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's been 3 months of this, that's why the "only 1 hour out of my day" argument isn't doing it for me.
2006-10-24 12:20:50 · update #1
There is no real nice way as you say ditch her. You don't want to be rude to her, so my only suggestion would to leave for lunch earlier or later... Or be straight up with her and tell her there is no room for her? Good luck with this one...
2006-10-24 10:46:24 · answer #1 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a tactful way to approach everything! This one is a little touchy though.
You could lie to her and tell her you aren't going to lunch, and then sneak away, but that is a little childish.
I guess if the problem is really that big of a deal, the only way you can avoid it is to tell her how you feel. I would leave out the part about her being a lousy conversationalist! But you could just tell her that you would prefer it if she didn't go to lunch with you everyday.
Your other option is to just deal with it. It is one hour out of your day. I believe people come into our lives for a reason. She may have something to offer you that you aren't aware of, or, maybe she needs you for something. Maybe being sensitive to her and trying to be her friend would be the best approach for everyone involved. Think about it! Good luck!
2006-10-24 10:53:50 · answer #2 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard one. You could all plan to meet at a certain place and not tell her where it is -- if you leave separately then you could just tell her that you have plans already. Or, you could do the hard conversation & just speak to her privately. Just say, "sometimes so&so & I like to eat lunch just the 2 or 3 of us." I think any attempt to "ditch her" will probably hurt her feelings. She is obviously lacking in social skills if she thinks it is okay to invite herself along every time.
2006-10-24 10:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by J.Z. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going at a different time or maybe going out another door.
2006-10-24 10:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋