i have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years. we went out for a meal, when it was time to pay he went to the bar and asked the waitress for her number. I was at the table and did not know. I found out later through his text messages. he shows no regret for his actions and has not appologised. he blames me for going through his phone without his permission. we live together should i move out and leave him?
2006-10-24 10:29:16 · 25 answers · asked by frankie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he was that bold with you being there, then I'm sure that he's even worse when you aren't around dear. Find someone else...Relationships are about trust, and seems that he has lost yours.
2006-10-24 10:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god! Thats awfull what he did! I would have gone mad at him. What kind of fella is he to get another gals phone number while he's in a relationship already!! Espically as you were both out having a meal!! Disgracefull!
If it was me i would walk away. I wouldn't be able to trust him and it would constantly be playing on my mind everyday if he's getting anymore girls numbers.
I guess it's up to you at the end of the day what you do and only YOU can decide. And dont forget this is what i would do.
Good luck with your decision :-)
2006-10-24 17:42:39 · answer #2 · answered by stephy_2004uk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um....hmmm.
yes, you should be forgiving but to what extent?
not only was he showing interest in somebody else, he actually took the time to act on it, and then lie about it to your face. yes, you shouldnt have snooped, but you did. breaking up with someone and moving out is a big deal. it all depends on how it makes YOU feel, not what all of us think. if it were me, i wouldnt be able to trust him anymore and i would think about it all the time. how many times has he done this while he's out on his own and you never found out, you know? sit and talk with him, because obviously he wants out of this relationship if he's already looking in to meeting/hooking up with new girls. if he was totally wasted and shows regret and promises it wont happen again, MAYBE give him another chance.
good luck honey.
2006-10-24 17:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer or you wouldn't be asking the question. Dump him big style and get a life. You are then more likely to meet someone who you can respect and who respects you
ps
His action plan appears to be verbal attack is the best form of defence......How long before it becomes physical?
2006-10-24 17:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by pollythumper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, move out and leave him before you accidentally become pregnant and get stuck with the loser. He obviously doesn't love you. I wonder how many other waitresses he's been out with that you haven't found out about?
2006-10-24 17:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say leave him. If he is asking for another girl's number, then it means he probably looking for another girl, or is cheating. Good luck and sorry to hear you are having problems. Hope you find a good man some day who doesn't ask for other girl's phone numbers.
2006-10-24 17:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by freakykittygoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guys a loser,I know its hard but hes not worth it, the longer you let it go on the harder it will be on you.I'm telling you your wasting your time,there's a great guy out there for you and you may be missing something great,at least a lot of FUN!
2006-10-24 17:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my own experience I think you should leave him. It will only get worse, he will not be true to you and that really hurts. You may love him but believe me you will always wonder about where he is and what he doing. You will always be miserable and very unhappy with someone you do not trust. You can do better, you are special.
2006-10-24 17:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by funnyface 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him like a bad habit. If he shows no remorse for what he did then he isn't really committed to the relationship, and that is someone you don't want to be with. Slash his tires too, loads of fun.
2006-10-24 17:32:06 · answer #9 · answered by Sir James the Dark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him.You seem like a nice person and you do NOT deserve to be treated like this in fact,no on deserves to be cheated on.Don't even say anything.Just move out.
2006-10-24 17:32:03 · answer #10 · answered by peacejump 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋