Wives,would you be upset if your hubby doesn't wear his wedding ring?

Question

My husband hasn't worn his for 6 and a half years.We've been married for 7 and he says he does not need a ring to know he is married.I think he doesn't want women to know he is married.What would you think?

My hubby is a nurse and part time mechanic.He has now pawned his wedding and yes he has cheated on me in the past but I think that most of these women knew he was married.

I've stopped wearing my ring because of that but it apparently does not bother him.I've got dermitis as well from washing my hands constantly at work and wearing a ring makes it worse but what's his reason?He loves the BLING of his other rings?

Sorry dermititis

Answer 1

I would probably be upset if he didn't wear it for 7 yrs. Not because of other women but because the ring is an important symbol of our commitment. My husband takes his ring off when he does mechanical work but puts it back on when he's done. That doesn't bother me. It is for his safety.

Just keep in mind that some women will hit on a man whether he's wearing his wedding ring or not.

Answer 2

I would expect my husband to wear the wedding ring unless he had a job where he was constantly working with his hands. And even then I'd expect him to wear it while not at work. Either he doesn't like the feeling of a ring on his hand, which he would get used to, or he likes girls to think he's single. Either way he needs to know what that ring means to you. I would tell him that that ring is a symbol of your love for him just like your wedding ring is a symbol of his love for you. You wear that ring because you love him and honor your commitment to him. If he can't put that ring on for the same reasons than I'd simply tell him that you are glad he's decided that wearing wedding rings isn't that important because you're tired of wearing yours all the time. Take it off and find out how he reacts to you not wearing it. I bet he flips out because men will be all over you the second you leave the house! Then when he spazzes just tell him that you don't need a wedding ring to tell you your married. :)

Answer 3

Yes I would be really upset as i feel when you make the commitment and put the ring on your finger that is where it belongs. Thing is you say your vows and exchange rings as part of the vows, promising till death us do part and all that, its a sign of commitment. I completely trust my husband. The only time he doesn't wear it is when he is in the shower or working on vehicles. He is no longer a mechanic so wears it all the time now, in fact he feels lost without it. He says he wears it as a sign of his love and commitment to me. WHY shouldn't men wear a wedding ring, they would have a real HISSY fit if we never wore our wedding ring. First thing people look at now days is whether or not someone is married. IS your partner fully committed to you or is he still thinking like he is single. Poor excuses he gives you my husband now works in hospitals and he wears his ring, OH and hes not a jewellery type of person but he still wears it. In fact he agonised over which ring he was having he was worse than a women in the jewellers. I'd question this mans motives!! WEAR THE BLOODY RING I SAY!!!! REMIND HIM OF THE FACT YOU BOTH CHOSE TO GET MARRIED!!!

Answer 4

Honey, I think you need to re-evaluate your relationship is it really a marriage, one of love or just convenience? I mean he's got a live in cook and cleaner by all accounts and still sleeping with other women!!

What are you getting from this relationship apart from low self esteem and a broken heart? Get your head out of your buttocks and smell the coffee, a wedding ring symbolises a union with another person, some-one they've stood before witnesses and declared undying love, so please why has he taken it off? I think you already know and are just buying time.

IF I had a husband and he took his ring off for more than a day, there'd be serious questions asked and hopefully the ring promptly put back on or us parting ways.

God bless you and good luck with whatever you decided to do...x

Answer 5

unfortunetley you should have made him wear 6 and a half years ago. The symbol of the wedding ring is to show that each other is taken and married, that is the whole point. If your husband cares at all about you, he will start wearing it, let him know you want him to wear it. but you should have said this a long time ago, who now after 6 years is it bothering you??

Answer 6

My husband is a steel worker and when he does specific jobs at the mill they will not allow ANY JEWELRY including wedding bands. However, that is the ONLY time he doesn't wear it and if he just stopped wearing it I would be very hurt. It is a symbol to show the world that he has someone that he loves with all his heart and is no longer "available." Have you told him that his not wearing his ring is hurting you? And that if he would just please wear it to make you happy you would appreciate it? If he doesn't have a valid reason for not wearing it I would do what all women do when we can't get cooperation......scream and cry!

Answer 7

If he wears other rings then the reason he isnt wearing his wedding ring is just an excuse by the sounds of it! If he didnt want to wear a ring to show he is married why did he get one in the first place????

Answer 8

I think you are right but don't let that affect your relationship. If he is cheating, one day this will be exposed. Always act the fool if you want to catch him with his pants down. Too much talk usually makes those cheating to be more cunning. I hope I'm wrong but why should he not put on his wedding ring apart from what I've stated? If he still loves you like what he did when you married him, then rest assured, you still have him.

Answer 9

Tricky one this!
I asked my hubby this why he has not worn his wedding ring many years ago, and he said it got in the way of his job! Something about it catching in instruments he was working on! (?)He has worked abroad for many years!
Such a poor ole thing i am! Just discovered the b@stard has been sh@gging some Russian tart! Did he not wear ring for work reasons, or just to let on to others he was single?
Do not know the answer, but he had a reason(?????????????) allegedly!
Me thinks the later of your question is the most probable! but then I am biased! i am married to a 2 timing c**t!

Answer 10

My husband and I have been married 10 years. I think he wore his wedding band for 2 days! It just wasn't comfortable for him.

Do I care? Not really. I am secure in the fact that he loves me and I love him. HE knows he is married - and that is what matters.

Added note He wore a ring with his first marriage - which didn't last. Wearing a ring isn't what makes or break a marriage. If the wearing of a ring is that important, there are probably bigger issues (trust).