ok well my ex came over last week and i thould my boyfriend about it and he got mad he said he chouldent belive that i hang out with him the point is that im really good friends with my ex and i both love them both but my problem is that he dosnt whant me to hang out with my ex anymore or he will brake up with me i dont no if he think ill chet on him i all ready said i whouldnet do that plz help im so confuzed!!! on what to say what to do im soo upset!! help!
2006-10-24 10:24:50 · 2 answers · asked by sweetsuger241 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
1st of all, u can never be good friends w/ an ex.... =T it's just too hard. one person may always have feelings, and your new boyfriend (or his new girlfriend) will NOT like it, not one bit.
2nd of all, if he really is ur good friend, if he cares about you and wants the best for you, he has to let you go.. so that u can Focus ur attention on ur new boyfriend..
it's probably not what u want to hear, but u know, it's hard for boys and girls in General to be friends, much less Exes!! i had the same problem.. my ex STILL calls me once in awhile, but once he wanted to meet up for dinner and i said no cuz i knew it would bother my new bf. i am really happy w/ my new bf and i would never cheat, but in respect for Him i said no to the ex. and he understood..he told me he wouldn't want his girlfriend to have dinner w/ another guy either.. =T. so, don't dump the friendship, but don't make it more than what it is... an ex boyfriend. good luck
2006-10-24 10:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! It sounds like your boyfriend is the controlling type. Lots of girls remain friends with an old boyfriend and there's nothing romantic going on.
You belong to you. Just because you're dating him right now does not give your boyfriend complete dominion over you. He has no right to tell you who you can and cannot have as a friend. It is obvious he does not trust you. He is also using emotional blackmail (threatening to break up with you) to get you to do what he wants. This is a serious form of abuse that often leads into physical abuse.
I know you love your boyfriend (that's why you're dating him) but you have to think of what's better for yourself. He's showing himself to be a potential abuser. The only advice I can offer is to beat him to the breakup. You deserve someone who will trust you and not treat you like an object.
2006-10-24 17:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by Avie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋