Teen issue?

Question

Help! My teenager is going through the typical issues of being rude, disrespectful, etc. but what I notice the most in between her drama is her jealousy of her stepbrother who is seven and her stepfather whom she has been around since she was two. She is seventeen now. Any idea how to help her get past the fact that these two people exist in her life?

i meant her half brother. Also, my daughter does not like shopping. I offer this all the time. She just is not interested.

Answer 1

I can remember going through those stages, and watching some of my friends who were actually close to their parents....and I was jealous about it. First off, find out what she likes to do the most. Let's say shopping for sake of example. So schedule a day with her to go shopping, and let her choose the day. When you guys actually go shopping, go to all the stores she likes, and look up what's been fashionable let's say, so that she will be more than interested in what you are saying about the clothes. Then at some point go ahead and take her to eat, because at some point you will be hungry. Go to a diner, or someplace that has a little bit of everything -- not fast food. That way there will be time to talk about things. When you talk to her, don't talk down to her. Just be upfront and honest. Tell her that you love her...but somehow you feel like she doesn't care about her family anymore. Add that you know she's busy and stressed with school and friends and anything else she does, and you just want to be able to be there for her. When she talks -- LISTEN. Let her finish everything she says. If you don't agree, don't just tell her, EXPLAIN to her. The best thing to do is just understand each other. I hope some of this helps. =) Good Luck.

Answer 2

Wow, I'm seventeen too and I'm way past the stage of being rude and what not. I went through that phase when I was like a freshman (14). Maybe she has some more issues other than the ones at home, maybe something is troubling her at school, or maybe that's just the way her personality is. I think you should just let her be and don't bother her. Leave her alone and let her do her own thing and don't get in her way. She'll cool down sooner or later. I would say show her more attention like take her to the movies, shopping, etc, but she probably thinks she's too cool to hang out with her mother. Just try to figure out a way to show her you still love her

Answer 3

talk to her , ask if there is anything thing that you can do to help. don't hit her it will only cause animosity between you and her, we all have issues ans periods or letting out our anxieties. if she continues after you have talked to her then ground her , or take away something she likes doing at home, but never hit her.

Answer 4

Point out that it is less than 12 months until you can, quite rightly, throw her out of the house.

Answer 5

first take her out shopping and buy her everything she wants. then have a talk with her and take it step by step. aske her if any thing is bothering her with school friends and life.

Answer 6

did you just say that she had been around her step father since she was 2 and has a step brothe thats 7 and shes 17????? i dont get it unless your refering to your son as a step

Answer 7

these all are adolescent changes

be care full not to hit her identity

show her that u love her and really care for her

Answer 8

DONT LET HER DISRESPECT U
WHATS WRONG WIT U
IF SHE WANNA TALK SMART HIT HER IN HER MOUTH
DONT GET ME WRONG IM NOT SAYIN KNOCK HER TEETH OUT
BUT SHOW HER THAT SHE CANT TALK 2 U ANY TYPE OF WAY . AND IF SHE DO THEN THAT IS WHATS GOING 2 HAPPEN UNTIL HE WANNA ACT RIGHT....
AND ASK HER Y IS SHE BEIN CHILDISH, BEING JEALOUS OF A SEVEN YR. OLD
IF ANYTING THE 7 YR OLD SHOULD BE JEALOUS OF HER CUZ SHE IS THE OLDEST AND CAN DO MORE
..YOUR DAUGHTER HAS ISSUES