Should I believe him??

Question

I am going through a divorce and after I filed my husband said he heard I was cheating. He went to Florida to get away and cheated on me. I think it is a cop out excuse. I wasn’t cheating we were talking about making it work. I think that he is lying. I don’t believe he met anyone.

He says ever since he cheated he feels bad. He wont do it until the divorce is final. I think this is away to see what I’ve been up to.

He was only in Florida for three days. Either way I thanked him because according to the bible when he cheated I was set free. He is no longer my husband legally or religiously.

He has been very manipulative throughout our marriage that I don’t know if I buy his story. .

I want to add that my husband is 35 and 5'6 weighs 230 lbs. He isnt a young disco boy who could pick up someone easy. But than I could be wtong, because I was attracted to him.

The reason I care is for religous reasons. If he cheated than I am free. If not I should never marry again.

I also have feelings for him. I filed because he needs to go to counseling for his anger problem.

Answer 1

I respect your religioius concerns but if you have filed for divorce you have turned your back and he can do as he chooses. Though it sounds to be the right choice since you stated he has anger issues, if they were bad enough for you to file then you need to walk away and not look back. I believe we're God's children and he would want you to take care of yourself.

Answer 2

Well you're still legally married...as for religiously, that's a different story. I believe that if you WANT it to work, you could make it work...but if neither of you want to, then a divorce sounds appropriate.

Perhaps you can solve your differences by talking honestly. If he cannot then take the high road and simply walk away from it.

Answer 3

Does it matter? You're divorcing him..you've already made up your mind. Why would you care what he does as long as he's not bringing any nasty things home to you?

The best thing you can do is not care...he's looking to see if he can still manipulate you. Other than conversations related specifically to property, children, and other divorce specific matters....ignore it.

Answer 4

Don't use religion as a deciding vote on whether to stay or go. Whether he cheated or not, you will never know. Make up your own mind if you want to stay with someone who is "very manipulative".

Answer 5

I wouldn't worry about it, If he did that is something he needs to live with NOT YOU!!! If this is what makes him happy then leave it be, you filed for divorse for a reason, I could be wrong but my guess is it has been over for a while, if this statment he tells you is true then its on him, You need to start your own life.

Answer 6

If you are free what does it matter believing him or not> Move on, quit dwelling on stuff that doesn't matter, hit the delete button and find yourself a "young disco boy" and tear it up!!!!!!

Answer 7

it takes two in a marriage, if he is not willing to seek counceling you can not change him yourself. there is no telling what he really did in florida and he wont ever tell im sure. Religiously i dont know how will you know if your set free if you dont know the truth from him?

Answer 8

You are getting a divorce. Why the heck do you care if he is lying or not? That is messed up!

Answer 9

Whether you believe he cheated or not,the marraige has more issues to address.You also name manipulation,etc.Seek Christian counseling,as you rely on the Bible,rightly.

Answer 10

God only gives us one life to live, and to waste it worring about someone that you are divorcing it not worth it. Move on, live your life, enjoy the time you have on this earth.