Welll 2 begin with i have a friend thats nice but hes a boy and thats not a problem. after a couple of years that ive known him and he then tells me that he loves me and askes me out......i dont like him as a boyfiend i only like him as a friend and he really likes me alot. I told him that i would telll him an answer tomorrow and then i told him that i like some1 else and i dont but i dont wanna hurt his feelings telling him the realll acual truth cuz then he willl be sad and will never forgive me. What should i do?
2006-10-24 09:46:28 · 17 answers · asked by SGx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell him that he is a very special friend and that you value his friendship. You're worried that if you became boy/girl friends that you might lose that special relationship!
2006-10-24 09:48:06 · answer #1 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth, even if it hurts. It'll hurt a lot less them having him puppy-dog you for a while, wasting time hoping for you, only to eventually make a fool of himself when the truth comes out. Be nice about it, but hell, you can't help it if you don't find him attractive. If he can't handle the truth, then he's not really your friend anyway and is just pretending to be, in hopes of getting you.
2006-10-24 09:54:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you lie, you will be left with two choices;
#1 tell yet another lie to cover up the first
#2 own up to the lie that you already told
If you tell the truth right off the bat, you will never need to do either of the above.
2006-10-24 09:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by tom l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy, I gennerally agree, that if a bloke is good friends with a pretty girl for a long time, he's either really interested in something more ALL the time, or interested in NOTHING more. This guy has fancied you for blooming ages, however, anyone foolish enough to say that they love someone straight off deserves nothing in my opinion.
Tell him the truth.
2006-10-24 09:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Friendship 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you want to be friends with him. Plain and simple. Tell him you enjoy and value the time you two share together, but you can only see him as a friend. He will be hurt regardless- but be honest. Your friendship will change after this and it’s best you don’t spend too much time with him, because you may give him hope and you will hurt him even more.
2006-10-24 09:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that you should tell him the truth like that you dion't like him because then you will live a lie and if he loves you that much he will understand as much as you do, don't let love get between friendship it screws everything up trust me i've been there before. Just tell him the truth and then you will know wether he is right for you or not.
*Toodles*
2006-10-24 09:51:03 · answer #6 · answered by squeeks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Souldn't have said there was someone else that hurt,
then by waiting he will have anexity,
then by saying no you will have hurt him again,
Then he likely will not be able to be around you anymore,
He likely loved you for a long time has he dated since you have been friends?
2006-10-24 09:49:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd rather hear the truth than hear that you like someone else over me. You should tell him how you'll feel, if he's a true friend, he'll understand.
2006-10-24 09:48:41 · answer #8 · answered by jolie31738 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth dont hang him in the middle waiting for u
if u like him tell if not let him know abt it so that he doesnt loose out on a potential oppertunity waiting for u
it hurts but it needs t be dont if u care for him
2006-10-24 09:51:23 · answer #9 · answered by psycadelic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
saying the truth is always the best way to go. You can not change your feeling.
you like him , he is nice and you want to be friend with him, things might change later but you do not know.
does it sound bad? I do not think it will hurt anyone.
2006-10-24 09:50:20 · answer #10 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋