"I've been with my boyfriend for 4 yrs now. I'm pregnant and just found out I have chlamydia. Now, I've only been with him and I've had regular pap smears which came back ok except for a small infection last year. I told him to go the doctor to get medication and also to find out if he had it. He went to the doctor and he said he was positive for it and that the doctor said that chlamydia is hidden. He doesn't go to the doctor for regular check ups........is it possible that he's had chlamydia all these years without giving it to me??? We've been sexually active for most of those years and for the most part have not used protection. He says he has not been with anyone since we've been together. Could he have had chlamydia all this time?? Please help me!!
2006-10-24 09:39:50 · 16 answers · asked by Noelia J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
maybe he got it from another parter before yall were together and someone gave it ti him it could be possible
2006-10-24 09:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl this is a real tough one. I would find out if either of you can carry it for that long without passing it onto your regular partner. Because girl if the answer is that you would pass if not using protection than I would have to assume he cheated on you....that he brought that too your bed & to you. You really need to look at this situation & the fact that a baby will change a lot, that you will need his honesty & support for the rest of your life sharing a child with him..so I would get this straightened out right away. & being pregnant has probably made you stronger anyway, this will be the best time to deal with it & know the truth or at least enough to settle your mind & bring back the peace in your life. Good luck girl with this & with your new baby...congrats
2006-10-24 09:53:11 · answer #2 · answered by PURE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would seem he is holding out for some reason. An ultimatum might only get the response you are wanting. If he doesn't initiate the commitment and only enters it at your insistence it will be an empty promise. I would think you already have started the process to move on so keep going. If he comes crawling then make a decision but still take it slow. He likes you begging and being able to control you. Once you stop he might wake up but still enter cautiously.
2016-03-28 06:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by Beverly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely cheating, hate to be blunt and brutal but it's highly doubtful that you wouldn't have any sort of symptom for 4 years considering that you've been going to the doctor and checking up. Chlamydia is called silent due to the fact that no symptoms show but it does get transmitted regardless, through any type of sex.
2006-10-24 09:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by toburheroine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be possible that he had chlamydia previously but considering the length of time you've been together, I would say that he got it from someone else. I hate to break it to ya but he pretty much just got caught having sex with someone else and the positive diagnosis proves it.
To be honest, he has absolutely no respect for you, your health, or the health of your child. What if he had picked up hepatitis C and passed it to your unborn child? He didn't even have the very least respect for you to wear a condom when he cheated on you. That is absolutely awful and you deserve someone who wouldn't even consider cheating on you.
2006-10-24 09:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very possible that he could have had it all that time & you could have too.....sometimes neither the male or the female have symptoms...my friends ex-bf gave her chlamydia 4 times & the first time...she had it for a year & a half before she found out she even had it....then after that he didnt get treated & kept giving it back to her.....shes stupid for going back to him i know!!Lol Either that or he has cheated on you...but i hope the best for you...
2006-10-24 09:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that he has had it all this time. Chlamydia often has no sypmtoms. But next time you go to the doctor ask him if it is possible for no symptoms for four years. It seems like an awful long time to not know. But like i said it is possible. Make sure you ask so you know if your man has been faithful.
Also, this disease causes infertility over time so that is another reason you want to ask your doc if you had it for all this time. These diseases can become quite serious if you had it all this time.
2006-10-24 09:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by babyj248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes chlamydia can go undiscover for years if he hasn't seen a doctor a all that is how they miss it usually it the woman who find out and let the guy know he has it . You are very lucky it did not affect your baby .
2006-10-24 09:46:32 · answer #8 · answered by kathy G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definetly a hidden STD (you can have it for years and years with no symptoms) what I do not know is would you definetly have not gotten infected before. ONLY your doctor can answer that question. DON OT have anymore unprotected sex until you get the answers you need. PROTECT yourself and your child.
2006-10-24 09:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your doctor about that, they are the only ones that can give you an educated answer. They didn't give you any type of information?
2006-10-24 09:46:34 · answer #10 · answered by beram04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think so u should leave him and get wit someone esle and he is lying 2 u he had been with someone esle and having sex wit them 2 he aint going 2 tell u thought but if u feel like he is cheating on u then u should called da show called cheaters and they can help u
2006-10-24 09:49:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋