Like to say thanks for your answers earlier. also i do love my boyfreidns jason lots and we have spoken about ti hes 16 and im 14. we feel ready and felt ready for what we did(fingered me) does this make me a slag? or does this make people think any less of me? also. can i have a honest answer would you tell your mum you have been fingered?
2006-10-24 09:39:09 · 20 answers · asked by xbeautyx122 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
also i am being serious and if you dont beleive then dont answer
2006-10-24 09:56:05 · update #1
no wat when i was younger and i was aroound lads alot i didnt tell my mom and u should be happy wiv ur life and u shouldn't think about what other people think of u u should get on wiv ur life and do what u think u r ready to do and just enjoy u life
take care
2006-10-24 09:43:55 · answer #1 · answered by Katie P 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are venturing into an area that will bring heartache and misery. You being 14 yrs old and him 16 you both are not ready for the direction you guys are heading. Innocence lost is gone forever. When the laws of nature are met then a child will be born and you will never be a teenager again. You'll go from teen to mom which carries great responsibilities and consequences. The effects of one small moment of pleasure can and will produce years of misery and struggle and stress.
2006-10-24 16:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by swomedicineman 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you are ready for a sexual relationship? You are very young to be experimenting in this fashion. However, this is yours and your boyfriends choice (do not be persuaded if you are unready!) Of course going as far as you have does not make you a slag, as long as you are comfortable with your choice then that is fine. Telling your mother? That depends, on several things:
1. the sort of relationship you have with her
2. whether she knows about your boyfriend and approves
3. what her reaction will be.
I told my mother when I started sleeping with my boyfriend at 16, but I knew that she had already worked it out, and we have a good relationship, so I knew she would not get annoyed, or upset or feel disappointed with me. You know your mother, her temperament and your relationship with her, so it really is only for you to decide. If you need advice about your relationship, then she may be the best person to go to, and therefore she will need to know how far the relationship has gone. I am sorry I cannot help you with a definitive answer, but whatever you decide, be careful, be happy and above all, BE SAFE!
2006-10-24 16:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by Goblinguard 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm afraid no matter how ready you thought you were, taking part in sexual activity when you're under the age of 16 is illegal, and your boyfriend could face charges if it is found out.
No-one can call you a slag over the internet based on this one thing, because no-one knows anything else about you, nor can they think any less of someone they don't know.
As for telling your mum, it depends what kind of relationship you have with her and your reasons for telling her. Think about her reaction... would she be proud, would she be upset, would she be angry with your boyfriend... whatever you do, tread very carefully!
2006-10-24 16:45:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all, whether you think you're ready or not, I really don't think 14 is old enough for anything sexual. It doesn't make you anything less or more than you are though, since you are dating this boy. You can't get pregnant from that, but infections can occur if his hands weren't very clean. It's totally up to you as to whether or not you want to talk to your mother about this. Good luck.
2006-10-24 16:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG>>>YES THAT makes u a slag..and i thinlk less of u! Fancy braagin abput urself being fingered...soemmore 14 yrs old only...get down to ur books and wait till ur brain is fully develpoped before doin any of this
2006-10-24 23:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by janlinder 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why dont u read ur many other same replys on your other posts.
I dnt think this is a serious Q at all. As a mother myself i wouldnt want to know that! When i was younger (im 22) i would never want 2 tell my mum that!
2006-10-24 16:56:22 · answer #7 · answered by Lou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound VERY immature and you may THINK you love him lots. Just let him do what he wants, and when you get pregnant and he's 'scarpered' to be with a decent girlfriend, don't write and tell us your sob story. Why tell your Mum, or us for that matter? Your Mum could tell the police you know. If you have intercourse now it will be illegal. You could, if the police think you are at risk, get taken into care.
2006-10-24 21:00:56 · answer #8 · answered by Sandee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you so sound like a slag going on here and taking about this.
of course people will think less of you, but this isn't the isssue, surely you can't think very much of yourself if you got to ask. take a look at yourself and change the way you are before you go any further and regret it
2006-10-24 17:12:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if your only 14,then why have you asked a question about your job previously,dont you go to school? also asking should i tell my mum? dont you think she'll know already now? when she goes on the computer. are you really only 14? are you actually a female? umm makes me wonder,you could be a pervert.
2006-10-24 18:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by stokies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi sweet heart
never mind what other people think, but i wouldn't tell any one not even your bezzy mate cos if you ever fall out, she will tell the world. OMG, DONT TELL YOUR MUM unless you two are really open about every thing. my son is your age but doesn't have a girl friend yet but i got him loads of condoms for when he does and he says im cool. people may think im the devil but it saves a trip to the clap clinic in the end. i was 14 once and things HAVEN'T changed.
stay safe, play safe xxx
2006-10-24 16:56:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋