2006-10-24 09:24:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, you already know about OLGA because you answered her question, good one by the way.
No offence taken, and I will happily share what I can.
Being gay for me has been difficult. I have had more than my share of the hate that many (not all) in society hurl. Being gay itself, happy with a boyfriend, going out with friends and such is great. Life in that regard is good.
The downside of course is the population that think like Olga. Their hatred was responsible for the murder of my Boyfriend in 1989. (he was beaten to death by 6 teenagers, they got life in prison). I have been personally attacked on three occasions (twice stabbed, once shot). I have had people hurl epithets and slurs the likes of which would make a weaker man fall apart. I however do not fall apart, why? because I had a strong family upbringing that eschewed the virtues of love, compassion and above all, respect.
You see I don't care if they like me, accept me, or even tolerate me, but they WILL respect my right to exist, live and love. Anyone foolish enough to think they can take me on and win would be commiting suicide. I am no shrinking violet and I have earned the right to be the way I am. Honest respectful debate on any subject including gays is not an issue, I can respect dissent. BUT, when and if slurs or hateful language is used, I take no prisoners.
I know I must sound angry to you, but I'm not really, it's just that you need to understand where I'm coming from. For gay people, life is always a contrast in happiness and struggle. We live, love and play but always with the knowledge that there will always be someone out there who, if given the chance, will harm us or worse.
2006-10-24 10:02:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me, being gay is not any different then being straight in pretty much everything I do.I have a relationship.We wear wedding bands even though we can't marry, we have been together for six years give or take, we work, we pay taxes, we pay bills, we enjoy TV, we like eating out, and we do everything the same as anyone else does.So, being gay is only different in the bedroom as far as I can tell.
Society doesn't treat me different within my community- for the most part.I have had a few encounters with people who were hateful and would actually threaten to kill me or beat me up.But those instances were rare and occurred outside my neighborhood.But there are many things I can't do just because I am gay.
I can't be honest about who I am and join the military.
I can't legally marry the one I love
I can't hold the hand of the one I love without some social stigma
I can't live life peacefully and freely as who I am without someone somewhere wanting to make my life miserable just because of who I am.
2006-10-24 17:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by BuckFush 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being gay is like being straight in a lot of ways. You're still a person, able to feel love, hate, joy, sadness, anger, peace and all of that. You just feel attracted to a member of the same gender the way a straight person would a person of the opposite gender. It's the only difference. (And if you're like me, you can feel an attraction to either gender.)
But when people find out, it can be a horrible experience. They yell out horrible epithets, throw things and threaten death. Even worse, they threaten eternal death. They try to hurt, to cripple. Since it's illegal to hurt the body, they turn their attentions to the soul. I think that hurts worse than anything.
It's hard to walk down the street, minding one's own business and then be screamed at or have garbage thrown. I am married to a man, however he looks rather feminine despite the full beard he often sports. Oftentimes, we are harrassed just by walking down the street. People shout out obscenities, calls us d*kes, lesbians and tell us to "get a man". The irony is that I didn't get so much ill treatment when I used to walk down the street with my ex-girlfriend! (Then again, she was very manly-looking.)
2006-10-24 16:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by Avie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being gay is normal. to me. I've never been straight, so i can not tell you in which ways its different being gay. society treats me very well.
2006-10-25 08:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by Nut B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Olga, being one of the local bashers ought to know. If you really want to know, try reading some of her posts that haven't been removed. Other than that, just keep reading posts here.
2006-10-24 16:43:40 · answer #5 · answered by Deirdre H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how you could 'wonder'. For the most part, they treat us like ****.
2006-10-24 17:01:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
same as everyone else. difficult, wonderful and ends in death!!
2006-10-25 18:26:00 · answer #7 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its great because i am never constipated
2006-10-24 17:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by oldstalecheeks 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋