Lets help all those out there who have cheated on their wives/husbands and thought that they were going to end up with their lovers. How many of you out there did it actually work out? If it didn't(like mine) what ended up happening? Help me help those who are thinking about committing adultry and stop them from making a big mistake by seeing our stories.
2006-10-24 09:03:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since this is my question I should tell a few sorrid details. I thought this man loved me but all he really truly loved me for was my bank account. I almost left my husband for a man that only wanted me for money. Now there is consequence for you don't you think?
2006-10-24 09:23:47 · update #1
they were lovers. nothing more. they were used. when i was done i was done.
i'm not happy about it and the marriage didn't work out. i'm not proud of what i did, i know i hurt a lot of people and other relationships, now i know to never, ever do it again, but i never chose anyone who would last, who meant anything besides sex or anyone we both knew.
2006-10-24 09:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt say its a BIG mistake, I would ssay its the wrong way to solve what ever the problem in the marriage is. Because, most of time when a WOMEN cheats in a marriage its because they are not getting something out of the marriage that they should be getting, be it quality time, sex, companionship, etc. Does not mean the cheating wasnt worth it for that person, but the consequences hurts poss. a lot of other people. Try counselling instead.
2006-10-24 09:21:13 · answer #2 · answered by METOO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating solves the quick superficial problems, but it creates much deeper injuries that usually are worse than the problem that you started with. But that is assuming that people cheat to solve problems. Many times that is not the case, it can be about lust, revenge, conditioning and weakness.
Everyone should cheat once and have it destroy a good relationship. The lessons about selfishness will be invaluable when you find a love that you want to keep. I have never heard of anyone who cheated or was cheated on, who thought that it helped the entire unit. Themselves yes, the unit absolutely not.
2006-10-24 09:45:48 · answer #3 · answered by Big Marc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great question, nice way to try and reach out and help someone!
I didn't cheat but was cheated on!
I wish you could all think of what your doing before you do it, think of the consequences of your actions and how you would hurt the people that love you. I have never been more hurt by anything in this world; loving someone and giving them 100% only to have 50% returned, heart wrenching! I wouldn't wish that kind of pain on anyone.
2006-10-24 09:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I split up with my first wife to have just the chance to get with this other woman. It didn't work out but by then the wife had slept with half the men in north Houston and I wouldn't go back to the soul-eating whore. I divorced her and found a trophy wife that drove the old wife insanely jealous crazy - it was great. Been with the new wife 23 years and have never cheated.
2006-10-24 09:57:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I forgave for the 1st time, 2nd time, then 3rd time, well 3 strikes your out. If you really love someone you don't hurt them, so when there is cheating going on its an insecurity of the cheater and shame on them for hurting others. Cheating hurts more that the significant other it also hurts children if there are any from the original couple. It also effects friends and even other family members. Before committing adultery get a counselor..
2006-10-24 09:12:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I never thought that I would end up with this guy, but He showed attention to me.. and I wasn't used to that and my boyfriend and I were having trouble at the time.. Umm. I told my boyfriend because I couldn't keep it a secret. and.... we worked through it... it was tough because it was his brother... My big mistake I know.. but we talked and I thank God every every every day. He took me back and we have now been married for 6 months. but together for 5 years. I know my mistakes I have made, and I haven't strayed away again and I never will.
2006-10-24 09:07:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I've never cheated, but I have been cheated on, twice, and it's extremely hurtful and painful. Don't do it, unless you could care less about breaking someone's heart, and have that person hate you or hold a huge grudge over you for a very long time. It's not worth it.
2006-10-24 09:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by Maico 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The answer to this question is very easy - simply don't cheat. Respect your partner enough to be commited to them.
2006-10-24 09:06:53 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't the cheater, rather the one that got cheated on. There's nothing more hurtful than being betrayed by someone you love.
2006-10-24 09:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋