What should I tell him?

Question

I have just told off my 6 year old son for hitting his 8 year old cousin and said that boys should never hit girls... he asked why? I spluttered something about it wasn't nice for either boys or girls to hit.... although I don't think he bought it... do you have a better explanation?

Good, glad to see you all as cr@p as me then with the explanations!

Answer 1

Talk is cheap. Smack the crap out of him, then ask him if he liked it. When he says no, tell him now you know how other people feel when you hit them.

Answer 2

Steer away from the boy/girl bit! You should focus on the anti-social behaviour in itself i.e. violence. If you have never hit your son then it should be easy to explain why it is wrong. If, however, you chastise your child with a slap or a spanking then the explanation is going to be that much more difficult. Kids of that age will, like it or not, use their parents as role models. If you have never hit your son then you will have no problem explaining that it is a thing that horrible people do and it doesn't make things any better.

Answer 3

He is 6 years old- when he hit someone and you yelled at him he learned right then he did something wrong regardless of your explanation.

One time my nephew hit his sister and when asked why he couldnt I told him if you continue hitting people when you are an adult you go to jail- forever. I'm horrible with children obviously. But just the fact that he was scolded for his action is enough for that age.

Answer 4

Children learn as they grow and look to us for the answers, which unfortunately, we didn't get a manual! I told my daughters that hitting is not nice, that you should always treat others the way that they want to be treated. That is sometimes a hard phrase for young kids to understand, so give him examples..."How would you like it if your cousin hit you?" When he says he wouldn't, ask him why not, and when he says it would hurt (or whatever answer he gives), remind him that is how he just made them feel and that he should apologize. Try to get him to think about his actions before acting on them. "Would you like it if someone did that to/did that for you?" Good Luck!

Answer 5

Explain to him that it is not nice for anyone to hit each other!! Ask him how he would feel if his cousin was hitting him!! Or a older child this might make him think!! But kids will be kids!!

Answer 6

Because if you train children correctly at that age then when he gets older he won't be a wife beater. Tell him that when children become adults that men are physically much stronger than most women and that he could hurt someone. Also, hitting anyone isn't a good thing.

Answer 7

I tell my kids not to hit if they don't like being hit back. Cos one day that person would hit back and that won't be nice. Right now we get accidental hits in play. I just keep reminding them, like everything else with children, one keeps on until it becomes second nature.

Answer 8

When my daughter hit someone in nursery, I made her feel guilty by asking her to imagine how the other girl felt. Told her it's not nice to make people feel sad and I made her apologise. She hasn't done it since.

Answer 9

Just tell your son that if he hits girls now, then they wont like him when he is older, or he will get in trouble by thier parents or something. Just tell him that not all girls are bad and tell him maybe that if he hits a girl its illegal and he will go jail. just kidding. but maybe what i said before will help

Answer 10

Because if you tell your son not to hit girls then he won't grow up to be an abusive husband.