i've been with my girl for over 2 years and we live together. even when we first started having sex the first times were sort of touch and go. we eventually found our groove and started having sex regularly. we have sex about 3 or 4 times a week and it's great. the best most passionate sex i've ever had. i love her and don't want to do anything that would make her feel uncomfortable but i want to bring more of a spark to our sex life. i have tried talking to her about fantasies but she wont really open up to me about it. what can i do to bring out her inner freak. i just want to make her feel special and make her orgasm like she never has.
2006-10-24 09:00:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're so nice! Start trying some new things, but go slow so you don't scare her...it is really trial and error...some things will be good and others not.
2006-10-24 09:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by noambition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age and maturity level have a lot to do with this. Is she open to new things or is she just closed minded about this?You should tell her what you just posted here. Tell her that you want to try and experience things you have never tried before with her. Start off with small things like y'all watching a porn together. I know it sounds crazy but a lot of females don't do this and if she will watch it with you it will really boost the sex drive. Once you introduce porn she will more than likely be open to try some of the things that y'all watch. Bring it to her like it is something that you want for the both of y'all and not just yourself and she should warm up to some ideas. I agree no matter how good the sex , sex with the same person can get boring if you don't try new things!! Hopes this helps!
2006-10-24 16:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by KS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe start with something subtle.......say something a little dirty to her during sex. Nothing too strong. But just test the waters so to speak. If she responds, then keep it there and let her open up. Maybe try some different positions, or try going into a room you usually don't have sex in. I don't know.....some women are sensitive. Maybe you should just talk to her about it. Maybe ask her what her fantasies are. Then go from there. Good luck with this. It's funny, I was just talking to my husband about monogamy and having to spice things up after awhile. You know.....role playing, toys and whatever. It's kinda fun. And you don't have to sleep with someone else, but it's fun to flirt with the idea of being someone else, even though you're with the person you love.
2006-10-24 16:11:08 · answer #3 · answered by ♥2323vsb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was exactly the same as ur girlfriend, shy about talkin about sex and what i wanted, and i eventually got bored of conventional sex. I started to talk to him about it and decidid to do something to spice it up!
So i bought some sexy lingerie out of ann summers, and it went from there. I buy a new piece every xmas, birthdays and valentines day now and i'm gettin quite a collection!!!!
Just wait and she'll tell u, try buyin some nice underwear for her to start off with, something not too scary, nice and girly, then show her how it winds u up!!!! she'll soon be on the ann summers mailing list!!!! gently does it, and u'll soon be there with the whips and chains just as i have.
2006-10-24 16:13:08 · answer #4 · answered by Rachie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, depending on her age, this could be a problem. See, a woman doesn't always know what's going on right at first. We all need to gain experience and all of that so until she's ready ( you are allowed to discuss), I wouldn't throw her any curve balls, ya know?
But, if you bring it up and she's ready for new stuff, try blindfolds, hanfcuffs and food.
2006-10-24 16:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you want her inner freak hey, you have to push the buttons in her head, so when yous have sex and she's really really hot, you start to say things to her and do it when she is really close to coming. over acouple of times you'll start to see her inner fantasies come out. there is alittle inner freak in all of us, you just have to start pushing her buttons.
2006-10-24 16:18:40 · answer #6 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You start it off by doing your lite fantasies{things that wont make her run:)} and you open up to her and see if she will loosing up.
2006-10-24 16:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by METOO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time i think my girl was the same real quiet now aftet like 5 years she down for what ever
2006-10-24 16:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by raradaone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well , maybe if she doesnt like talking about it you could just start doing things slowly with her while in the act. she may like that way better. but please be gentle. If she wants more youll be able to tell..
2006-10-24 16:04:34 · answer #9 · answered by anissia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep asking her and eventually she will open up to you.
2006-10-24 16:03:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋