Okay, Im 16... I like girls... But they just dont seem to be into me. I was kinda/sorta overweight 9th grade... Last summer i went on a diet..I lost MUCHO weight... Ive been told i look ALOT better...but now, its like every girl i meet. They put me in the "Friend" portion of there heart. Never in the possible boyfriend portion. Yeah, my sisters tell me im "too nice" and also that i have a way developed way of looking at the world. Thats cool and all but i just want to be accepted. I want someone to buy things for that appreciate me, i want to have conversations about movies/music, things that interest me. It seems i connect more with adults then teenagers.. That in returned led me to falling in love with my teacher...Fast Foward a season and now its fall, im seeing this girl and once again, Im her friend and not boyfriend, this drives me CRAZY... It even makes me wonder am i gay? I like girls but why dont things work out with me and them...please help ;-(
2006-10-24 08:54:06 · 19 answers · asked by Stevenson J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are interested in girls so I don't think you're gay. My younger brother is gay and if you were too it wouldn't matter you would still be the kind of person you sound like, sweet and kind. I think you should relax a little about being some girl boyfriend because you might be coming off as desperate or coming on to strong to the girls so they get turned off by this. Just have fun and one day it will happen. Another thing is to give it time because they still might remember you as overweight so they still have that vision of you in their minds. Every thing will work out for you just have patience and enjoy being a teenager.
2006-10-24 09:09:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i doubt that you're gay, but you are the only one that can truly answer that question.. but as to the other stuff.. i can say that just be patient and you will meet a girl that would like to have you in her life as more than just a friend. being a teenager sucks and i don't miss it for anything. i had pretty much the same issue when i was a teen, guys wanted to be friends.. not more but that has changed. besides no one said you had to date someone that you attend school with. I say don't give up and being a nice guy isn't a bad thing either, there is someone out there i'm sure that is just waiting to find you.. so be optimistic and maybe if you actually stop "looking" for a girlfriend, one will then just show up... its funny how that happens sometimes.
2006-10-24 16:00:55 · answer #2 · answered by hockeyiluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you think girls don't like you does not make you gay. If you were gay, you would maybe have confused feelings about your sexuality, and whether you like girls or boys. According to you, you like girls. Don't confuse girls not liking you with being gay.
Have you ever considered the kind of girls you are approaching. Are they shallow? Maybe they are "players" and playing with a "nice guy" like yourself's emotions would make them feel too guilty. Therefore, they file you in the "friend" category.
Be patient. I know that's easier said than done, but if you are, the right girl will come along. And one other thing, always be true to yourself. If you're not, you will attract the wrong ones and get yourself hurt. Life is hard enough without playing games. A girl that sees that you are true to yourself will respect you so much more.
2006-10-24 16:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by Cameron Crockett 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here you go dude! I was the same way when I was a teen. All the girls looked at me as a "big brother" type. I hated it. Then, it happened. I met my future wife through one of my "little sisters" a.k.a. girl I liked. She told my wife to be that I was the nicest guy she had ever met, and well, the rest is being made history. My point is this, don't change who you are for anybody. Just keep being you, and your "better half" will come along in due time. It's not about the quantity of girls you date, it's all about the quality of girls you date.
2006-10-24 15:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by thelawnlord 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No man, it doesn't mean you are gay at all. You are still young too - when I was 16 ...wow.....I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 17 really. One thing you have to watch for is catering to girls too much. Make them work a little for you, you shouldn't jum in head first and be too gung ho - it might scare someone off. Another thing is to be honest. When you go out, grab her hand, tell her she's beautiful. Tell someone when you like them. Be straightforward, at least if you make your intentions known early, there is less time for you to fall into the "friends" stage. Whatever you do - Good lcuk buddy.
2006-10-24 15:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by IrishGuy85 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not gay. People in high school are generally immature and so worried about what others think. You are young and have much time to be in a relationship. When you meet the right girl, you will know. Don't stop being nice...it will get you far.
2006-10-24 16:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by noambition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the good guys aren't appreciated until you get older. You are not gay, you are just in a slump. My advice is to not focus so much on not having a "girlfriend", and more on enjoying life and becoming involved in something you love. Once you do that I will almost guarantee things will fall into place. Worked for me...stop looking for it so hard and find out it was right in front of your face the whole time. Congrads on your weight loss..that takes determination. So does this, relax!!!!! Good Luck!!
2006-10-24 16:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by hooahgoarmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse you are not gay.
I know it can be hard being friends with girls because the dont see you as boyfriend material but you will need to be patient. There will be a girl who is will see you as boyfriend material.
Think how much the girls must like you to trust you enough to be their friend.
Not every boy is that lucky.
2006-10-24 16:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by Doc M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls like guys who are interested in them and not just in themselves. Be interested in who they are and what their likes and dislikes are. Take them out on dates and be willing to pay for it. That proves that you do care for them and be honest. Girls aren't mind readers you have to tell them how you feel about them. Don't be discouraged if someone turns you down. You are young and you have plenty of time to find your perfect match. Remember to that love can grow strong out of something that started out as a friendship.
2006-10-24 16:17:41 · answer #9 · answered by sweetkooky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard being sixteen, so don't sweat it. you're not gay because you like girls. the right one just hasn't come along yet. focus on being the best person you can be and that will make you very attractive to the best kind of girl. good luck!
2006-10-24 15:57:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋