Any suggestions for how to rid of a stalker?

Question

My ex friend, and brother's ex girlfriend won't leave my family or myself alone. I've tried the conventional ways (cops, flat out telling her etc) and nothing so far has been successful. So i appeal to you, psychology fans for hopefully some intellegent advise. thanks.

Answer 1

Well the cops probably won't do much till its almost too late. The best way to deal with stalkers, according to The National Center for Victims of Crimes is to first tell them "no"...one time. Even talking to them one time is encouragement. It is kind of a catch 22, ignoring them will make them angry but talking to them...just once is an invitation to keep stalking you.
Remember....they aren't going to get bored and go away...
The NCVC recommend that you document every time you have contact...contact can as simple as them watching you from across a street.
If you can get a TRO, if they violate it...have them picked up...don't back down from this and don't pity or feel sorry for them if they go to jail.
I know that stalking seems funny to some people and trivial to others but many people die each year at the hand of their stalkers.
Check out these web sites they are very informative.

www.antistalking.com/victim
www.ncvc.org/src/

Good luck to you and your family and be careful!!!

Answer 2

I think a video camera works wonders. They're small and relatively cheap. Just be sure to narrate time and location and why you turned on the camera each time you do. If you get a restraining order, and they violate it, video evidence is hard to refute. But I've got a feeling that if you whip out the video camera every time they're stalking you, they'll quickly make themselves scarce. Even better--act like you're hiding the camera (even though you know they see it)!

Answer 3

O.k.,Speaking from past experience,{Ya,I was TOO!} if you let them know it bothers you and scares you,they get off on that and thats their way off thinking they own you and control you,Unfortunatly,going to please for sraining order just makes them Happy ever,because they think their scaring you to that point is even controling you more!what you need to do {Or your brother}Get MAD!let this person now every time they pop up,how perthedict they are,and what a waiste of space!Laugh in their face,And say,Were,re not a scared of you anymore,we feel sorry for how Pitaful you are,laugh more,and then tell them to go get a real life and then start poping up places they would not want you,Their work,The clubs they go to,Supermarket,some place that they hide their craziness from,like their family,church,ect.and then have your saport {FRIENDS

Answer 4

If the cops aren't willing to do their job, bug your county sherriff, local prosceutor, and your state police. If you still can't get them to help, start bugging your state atty. gen., daily, by phone.
You have a right to assistance from the law.
Making them do their part isn't always easy. Squeaky wheels,
get greased.

Answer 5

Record the stalking (phone recordings or video), and send a copy of the tape to the stalker. If this doesn't work, send copies to her friends and family.

Answer 6

If they are in your proximity and stalking you in a public place, say very loudly, stop stalking me you weirdo, you are always following me! It could work, on the level of social embarressment as stalkers are usually introvert and secretative. Good luck.

Answer 7

My advise is: ignore them.. don't let them think that they affect you.. It's like with little children.. if they don't think that it has any affect, they will stop eventually. That is.. as long as they don't become violent.. if so, you defenitely have to call in the cops..

Answer 8

I'd like to know this also...cause I have some guy who won't leave me alone. He keeps calling and stuff. I've filed police reports...and stuff like that.

Answer 9

Start stalking them back, that would be awesome if their not dangerous...lol. Otherwise I dont know what to tell you. Good luck!

Answer 10

A 357 should take care of it.