2006-10-24 08:46:35 · 15 answers · asked by Debbie L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Happily unmarried for 12 years this coming June.
2006-10-24 08:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how old you are, but I'm going to assume late teens and maybe early twenties.
It's so easy to be totally in love when we are young. I mean it's all good, that is until we start to discover ourselves. The older we get the less flexible we become. We start developing our own personalities, and uinique qualities that differinciates us from everyone else.
There is a very strong possibility that two young lovers will grow apart as they grow older. There is so much opportunity and variety in this world that it would be impossible to remain the same person each year that we grow older.
My advice would be to hold on to the person you love for as long as possible, but realize that at some point you will need to venture out into this world by yourself. Just as we leave home and make a life for ourselves, we also need to be single and discover oursleves. We learn and grow in leaps and bounds from the people we encounter through life.
Meet as many people and make as many friends that you can. Of those friends you may experience some really good dating relationships and learn alot about yourself and what works best for you. When you start to approach your thirties, then maybe you should think about settling down. You will have learned alot about yourself during your twenties and hopefully you will have a really good idea of how you are as a person and what you need from a husband or wife. The more you know about yourself and how you see yourself in this world, well the better you will be at choosing a person that is a good fit for you.
Young people don't know, what they don't know. That means that you just don't know what lies ahead and how your going to deal with life until you experience it ALL.
2006-10-24 16:07:50 · answer #2 · answered by Jerrid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage (minus the emotional/religious attachment) is a legal contract. It can clarify who is legally responsible for debt and children.
Many couples choose not to get married others do just fine.
In my opinion if you plan to have major joint debt (house, cars, credit cards) and children, then it is a benefit to be married. Because then you each have legal custody of the children and should a separation happen then it is still easier in our legal system (which is far from perfect) to retain some form custody of them.
Of course there are emotional and religious benefits to be married and that varies with what your opinion would be. Some feel that a formal agreement (marriage) is stronger than just "living with someone" because of the emotional connection and connotations.
2006-10-24 16:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think marriage is just a paper. Marriage is not always necessary.
2006-10-24 15:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, what you put into the relationship is the same you can put into the marriage.
2006-10-24 15:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not always. As long as both parties agree to being single, why not?
2006-10-24 15:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is up to the two people.
In the past marriage would be the next step.
Things are different now
2006-10-24 15:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessary. What is important is the BOTH of you are happy with the decision.
2006-10-24 15:49:46 · answer #8 · answered by WonderWmn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marrige is just a piece of paper doesnt make you love someone more or less
2006-10-24 15:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by kitten6444 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no marraige isnt a must unless both parties want it. then it is just some thing nice to do.
2006-10-24 15:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋