I can't believe that there isn't a single person that can give me some sound advice on the previously posted question. Someone, help me please. I don't know what to do!
2006-10-24 08:46:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I posted a question about starting a relationship with an ex.
2006-10-24 08:48:37 · update #1
because you're twisted in the head...
2006-10-24 08:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by marcela_ipa 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This was the Question:
What method should I use to begin another relationship with my ex?
My ex (1st love) and I have known each other for 17 years. We initially started dating 11 years ago. We dated for quite a while and lived together, but when we broke up we didn't speak for 5 years. During this time, I got into a relationship, got engaged and pregnant. After getting pregnant, I find out that my new fience had built a friendship with my ex during the years that we didn't speak. He intentionally avoided telling me about this friendship because he knew that I would never date my ex's friend. We began a terrible marriage and toward the end of it, my ex and I realized we were still very much in love and began having an affair, for a short period of time. We both had too much pride to work on it to make it work the first time around. Now that I'm seperated, it's a struggle to keep this love undercover, but I know I have to or it will be obvious that we were having an affair, which can be used against me in court. How do we start our lives together again?
My answer: Keep it quite until the divorce is final.
2006-10-24 08:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by bamagrits84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the higher road. Put any realtionships that you may have or have interest in on HOLD until the divorce has been signed by a proper Judge. Have you ever heard that "No divorce is ever final?". Well, it's true. If you come out right after the divorce is final (or even within 6+ months after), he can absolutely REOPEN THE DIVORCE and express the NEW FACTS THAT HAVE "COME TO LIGHT" AFTER THE DIVORCE WAS FINALIZED and make the judge aware of them in an attempt to lessen any Alimony or Child support that may be due. Beyond the legal ramifications of cheating, and that's what you are doing if you are married to someone else, you have ethical consequences for having been morally repugnant. I'm not judging you. I know how you feel. I'm just stating what will hopefully make you think about what you are doing and what you are going through. Look in a mirror for a long time. Keep looking into your own eyes. Your mind will start to wander and if it makes you uncomfortable and you start feeling like you aren't a good person, then THAT IS YOU TELLING YOURSELF SOMETHING. After that, look longer and closer in the mirror without quitting. If you can't take it anymore, change your life. If the guy that you are now in love with understands, respects your opinion and stays/waits, then he may very well be worth it. Otherwise, you might need to drop both of them. They aren't the only guys left out there. I've dated plenty of single moms. Your day of happiness will come, just be patient, honest, good and true to yourself.
2006-10-24 08:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by snowfreeze3 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay, I went back and read your last question. WOW!
To be honest, you're in a mess. Since you are still married, I would suggest you cool it with the affair until you sort out your marriage. If divorce is what you want, then separate and file for it. But leave the complicated affair, lying, hiding the affair, etc... stuff out of the picture.
Once you are divorced, and have had time to put your life back together, then you can see if you want your ex (who you are having the affair with) back in your life.
2006-10-24 08:49:32 · answer #4 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to start another relationship with your ex. a successful one. just start over again. Don't start where you left off. I mean start on first dates and then go from there. and look at what went wrong in the last relationship and try to fix that.
Good Luck
2006-10-24 08:49:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You broke with your ex for a reason...why bother continuing the same thing over again. People do change but not drastically. I say move on and have fun with the new person...don't waste time and energy on something that will not work
2006-10-24 08:49:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-22 08:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question was very long but not a bad one- you only waited 20 minutes before writting this one... please give it at least 3 days before jumping to conclusions... an answer to the question will take time for people to write you a decent answer... lighten up and you will hear from many people!
2006-10-24 08:50:42 · answer #8 · answered by P!ss Ant 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Click on your add comments link (on the page your question is on) and tell us which question you are talking about. All of us here are willing to try to help, as you can see by your answers so far. Peace.
2006-10-24 08:49:43 · answer #9 · answered by superfluity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I'll be glad to help, how do I get the old question? I'll answer it for you!
Gayle
2006-10-24 08:47:48 · answer #10 · answered by gayle j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
More details. I'm not in the mood to search for one stupid question.
2006-10-24 08:58:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋