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Question

I am 7 1/2 months pregnant-we tried for a long time to get pregnant and are taking the opportunity to not find out what we are having-but even when people ask "what are you having?" My reponse to them doesn't seem to phase them from telling me what they assume I am having-they seem to think because of the way I am carrying-or the way they carried or their sister or friend-they know what I am having-my question is-what do I say to these people who seem to think that they know better than me, or my Dr. at that?? I want to be rude-I want to tell them what I really think of their opinion-and why I don't want to hear it-but everyone seems to think that "its just my emotions", Everyones opinion is ruining my fun-what do you suppose I do?? or say at that??

Answer 1

Just smile and nod. You said it yourself, they are saying their opinions. I didn't find out the sex of either of my children until they were born. I had people doing the same to me. Everyone thought they were right but half of those people were wrong. Just let everything they say go in one ear and right out the other.

Answer 2

People always find it fun to try and guess the sex of the baby. You can't let it get to you, it's inevitable. My husband and I found out what we were having because we're so anxious. Before we found out, everyone would ask me and my husband whether we were planning to find out the sex or not. When we would tell them that we really wanted to know, they'd ask why?

However, once it was obvious I was pregnant, EVERYONE (even strangers) would come up to me and say, "You're having a girl! We know because you're so round and you're carrying high!" This was what I got from the majority of friends and family. Only 2 family members guessed we were having a boy and it turns out, they were the only ones who were right! I told them that they should have put money on it because they would have totally won HUGE!

So, don't fret, no one really knows what you're going to have until your baby is born. Even some doctors are wrong. LOL

Good luck, relax, enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and most of all, CONGRATULATIONS! :)

Answer 3

Tell them that you know your own body better then they do and that if you any help or answers to any questions then you will call them but other then that this is the way oyu fell and that is that. I would be so rude if I was in your shoes so for someone to tell you that it is your emotions, I would have to say that it is not that. It's you idea of pregnancy and that is the way you want things to be that they were going to be this way or else.

Sorry for the hard time people are giving you, I get so sick of people telling me that my emotions are getting the best of me and What I think is not good enough for anyone.

Best Wishes and if they get too annoying then you may have to be mean or rude and put your foot down.

Answer 4

I went through the same thing and would tell them that they have a 50% chance of being right. (About half of them were wrong, of course, by the way.) Another option would be to tell them that you acutally found out the sex of the baby, and it's the other one. Best yet, tell half of those people that the baby is one sex and the other half that the baby is the other. That way, you can get them really confused, but they will argue amongst themselves instead of to you about what you are having. Try not to worry about what other people guess. You should know that there is no way for them to know either way.

Answer 5

You just have to take it with a grain of salt! Becauase you don't want to go offending people! It's like when you get mad at someone, you do need to cool off before you talk to them again becaus eyou are afraid of what you might say! Don't be rude, if they say, i think it's a girl, just tell them well we'll just have to find out when the time comes and walk away! It's been good to read some questions on here, i'll have to keep in mind, not to ask someone what they are having, not touching their belly and etc etc... not that i ever did before! lol!
Good Luck! and congrats on your 'surprise'

Answer 6

easy now, just calm down. Noone elsed opinion matters. There is no possible way for anyone to know what you are having. Everyone is just excited for you. It is exciting to be expecting a baby, and everyone does think they have to give you there opinion. But I know how you feel, just take it as you get it, and let it leave threw the other ear. It is hard, but just say that you are the mom and know what you want. I give you props. good luck and hope you have a happy delivery.

Answer 7

okay, I think maybe it is your emotions because that whole paragraph ran together like a huge sentence and had no real meaning! From what I could gather.....you don't like people guessing at what your having? All I can say is big deal! Everyone is going to have an opinion about how you carry, or if your nose spread, or feet got bigger or whatever else they think. They are just guessing, and talking.......I don't get what your problem is. Sorry!

Answer 8

Just remember, your right they don't really know. They are just having fun trying to guess. In fact @ work i have even seen a pot go up for when someone is having the baby, how big and is it a boy or girl. They are just having fun, not trying to ruin your fun. If it is bothering you. tell them when you tell them you don't know that you would prefer no one else tell you anymore and just to wait until the baby is born to find out.

Answer 9

I would be honest and upfront and tell them that you want to experience the surprise of the unknown. If they try to guess what you are having, tell them thanks for the guess, but you are not interested in the guessing game. If this still does not work, then play the "emotional Card" Cuss them out and send them on their way... After all you are pregnant and a little Emotional, use it, enjoy it and above all else LOVE IT!

Answer 10

If you are just now encountering this, lucky for you. I was practically molested at the grocery store by old ladies groping my stomach. Just roll your eyes and let it roll off your back. WHO CARES? Their opinions shouldn't be "ruining" the fun. Old wives's tales are part of being pregnant. Nothing different than the office pool on the birth date, etc. See the humor in it. YOU don't know anymore than they do. Just relax and enjoy...the hardest part is yet to come my dear.