How do I just let go?

Question

It doesn't seem like I can just move on like everyone else can. I have so much in my life that I wish I can throw away.
Like a friend who does nothing but get me in trouble, my obsession with a guy that I will never be with, my dirty room that hasn't been clean for the last year and won't stay clean or just myself. I sometimes feel like I can't live anymore and life just doesn't go on.
There are plenty of chances for everybody and I think I have already missed my boat.
If anybody can understand any of this crap in here-life would be a miracle.

Answer 1

I know how that feels. The best thing you can do is try to think of other things. Go out and do something. Hang out with different people that won't get you in trouble. For the obsession with a guy, I've been there. Try to talk to him. If you're too afraid then just keep being obsessed. It's better if you try to talk to him over the net though. It's easier than in person. And as for your dirty room, just clean it. It might help get your mind off things or something. I understand though I felt like that before.

Answer 2

Start throwing away. Start with your room. Make your room your special place that reflects and pleases you. Next, see a counselour or get into a group that deals in depression. Dont go to an MD that is just going to set you up with pills., go to someone who will help you face your issues such as dumping a friend and a boyfriend that dont really meet your criteria. I dont know your age, but I am 62, had a lousy marriage, a few ok relationships and am now with someone I love to the nth degree. It is never too late and the boats keep coming in.

Answer 3

Girl bye! I grew up in a gang infested neighborhood. I am talking 18th street Chicago,Il..forget drive bys, I'm talkin' walk bys. I fell in love with a guy who ended up being a dope fien. Stayed with him for two years convinced that he would be able to stop. Was abused and used. Been chased by the cops and had to leave home at 12yrs old.

The only way your life will get better is if you make it better. FIll your day with positive people and activities. If you constantly kick it with people who are self destructive they will drag you down in the dirt. You need to see what is out there for you.

Laugh, date, WORK, finish school, if you do all of these things, you will be so busy being happy and building towards goals that you won't have time for any nonsense.

Call me a sell out if you choose, but I ended up working my way out of the hood, met a suburban white boy, and moved with him to Florida where he is studying for his masters and where I can concentrate on staying positive.

Answer 4

I am somewhat similar to you. It's like I dwell on things and its really hard to let go and just move on or accept. I read this book called change your brain change your life. I was a psychology major and the way we think really has a lot to do with our chemical makeup and conditioning that we've had throughout our lives to make us think the way we think. You really should check out the book or ways to change the way you think. You have to constantly remind yourself to look at situations objectively, and with practice you can change. Its hard though and sometimes I dwell on something to the point that I have physical reactions, like a stomach ache or sleeping problems. So you're not alone, you just have to keep trying. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

Trust me life goes on! its what u make of it start for one trying to clean your room keep it clean make it a goal! the friend that keeps getting u into trouble drop her/him and the obsession with the guy forget about him theres other guys out there trust me! there are oppurunitys out there u just gotta work for them! trust me ive been to the point in my life where i felt things arent just gonna get better but they did! life is full ups and downs and ive learned when your down try to make it better! thats the only thing that will work!

Answer 6

Stop and take a deep breath. All of these things you mentioned are common and normal. Try to make the decision to be happy, to find joy. Don't let the devil win! He wants you to be miserable, he wants you to feel hopeless. You have not missed your boat. . .you are IN it. And so is Jesus. He is telling you it will all be ok, but He talks in a still, small voice. You need to be still, and know that He is God. Please find a good jr or sr high church group in your area, it will turn your life AROUND!!!!! :)

Answer 7

Try emailing the Samaritans your woes. They read every SINGLE email, and reply within 24 hrs. They're pretty good for completely anonymous counselling.

Answer 8

sounds like you are depressed. talk to a doctor.