I just got a BFN from my first IVF cycle on Oct 13th and I can't move past this feeling of hopelessness.
2006-10-24 08:33:43 · 8 answers · asked by sunflowers 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I am SO sorry. How heartbreaking.
I would urge you to seek support from other women going through the same thing right now. http://fertilethoughts.org has some really great and very active infertility boards. http://ivfconnections.com/ focuses just on people doing IVF. Their bulletin boards are great too.
As for getting over it... Well, I never had a failed IVF cycle (my only cycle was successful), but I had many failed IUI cycles that were devastating to me. For me the best way to move past a failed cycle was to concentrate on when we would be trying again. Will you be doing another cycle soon? Do you have any frozen embryos for a FET?
If these things don't help please seek the assistance of a counselor. Infertility is an incredibly stressful and heartbreaking condition. It may help you to talk about what you are going through with a mental health professional who can teach you some coping skills.
Again, I am so sorry.
2006-10-24 08:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by Shana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Soooo sorry to hear that your IVF failed. I didn't get a BFN with my first IVF; it worked for me. However it took me over 3 years and countless BFNs with IUI.
I am assuming that this is your last avenue to conceive a natural child, so all of your eggs were literally in one basket. At your follow-up visit, ask your doctor about your chances of trying again. Hopefully there was nothing significant to deter you from trying again. Perhaps the hope that maybe it would work again will help you through this extremely difficult time.
2006-10-24 16:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by KC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your pain. I, too, have had several failed cycles. Please take some time to grieve and feel hopeless and feel sorry. It's so important to feel all those feelings and not sweep them under the carpet. The IVF process is very difficult, and anyone who's done it will want to give you a big hug. You don't have to rush into another cycle, either. Talk to people who care about you about how you feel -- your partner, friends, family. My husband & I took a break from the process just to grieve, and it was so therapeutic. It's okay to take some time for you, too, to do things you like. It's okay to pamper yourself with a massage. I got a new pedicure just because the new nail color made me happy. Do the little things that mean a lot to you.
Sharing in your sorrow........
2006-10-24 23:53:54 · answer #3 · answered by phillipa_gordon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am sooooo sorry. i haven't had ivf, but i have had an iui done. i have been ttc for 3 years. i know how much it hurts to get a bfn. i am a member of a yahoo group to help me through this journey if you want someone to talk to. it is infertility friends. we talk about everything. good luck to you and i will keep you in my prayers.
2006-10-24 17:39:30 · answer #4 · answered by brandy1905 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that. I have had 2iui going on me 3 one on Sunday my husband and I are going try ivf if the 3 iui dose not go right but I pray to god that it works i have been ttc for 8 long years . So honey keep your head up and u just keeping asking the LORD to BLESS u and your Husband for that loving baby
GOOD LUCK and GOD BLESS YOU****************************
2006-10-24 19:56:48 · answer #5 · answered by km 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you the different btw having IVFand trying to conceive via sex is 1- you pay a fortune and you feel that you have a guarantee when their is none
2- sex is you are taking a chance
well I fell that maybe you should start looking at it like you are taken a chance
try as hard as it could be Relax, keep busy
and I am sure next time the result will be better
Good Luck
2006-10-24 16:08:18 · answer #6 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
if i knew what BFN or IVF stood for i be of more help, but it sounds like you just need a hug.
2006-10-24 15:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by Big Rudy 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
come to realize that life goes on. just because you can have kids yourself doesnt mean that life as you know it will end. its an emotional battle that will constantly plague you. god has a plan for everyone
2006-10-24 16:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by Kassie 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋