We been divorced for 9 mths and he calls me all the time. He finds any excuse to see me. Uses our child to brings us back together. Is always wondering what am doing and with who. Treats me as if we are still in a relationship.
2006-10-24 08:19:01 · 10 answers · asked by em506 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would get him to go on line and read: http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Diya2.html or get him a book or a list of counselor phone numbers. Remind him that although you want to be friends for the sake of your child, you have moved on and so should he. There are also lots of books on the subject, you could give him one as a gift and tell him you need for him to read it and take it to heart because yours is no longer for him to take. Good Luck!
2006-10-24 08:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be there when he calls. Ignore any requests other than those that directly affect your child together. Do not give in to his demands about your life. A total split is necessary. You keep giving in. Tell him to leave you alone unless it directly affects your child. Good luck!
2006-10-24 08:24:24 · answer #2 · answered by lee911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can move out changing you phone number will stop the call if you can meet on a park or somewhere for him to spent time with kids and meet there to pick that up if not get the police
ask the kids not to tell him the number
take care
2006-10-24 08:42:59 · answer #3 · answered by lines 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer about finding a new guy and talking about him whenever your ex calls made me laugh out loud - how true!!! I can tell you that this works from firsthand experience - It's sooo satisfying for the soul too.
2006-10-24 08:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea - i got an ex like that too - treated me crappy the last few years of our marriage, but i left him & now always wants to take me to dinner, sends flowers, looks for excuses to stop by, always wants to know where i go, who i'm with, if i'm dating anyone - told him i do not want to get back together - do not want to be married anymore - it was my wish to stay friends, but obviously it is too hard for him to be friends with me when he wants to get back together, so i do not accept anything from him other than child support payments - i keep all our calls strictlly business (anything concerning the kids). hoping he eventually will catch on that it's over - i may ask his family for assistance if he continues bugging me - will ask them to help him move on.
2006-10-24 08:41:02 · answer #5 · answered by livetall1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start telling him about the new guy you met and how wonderful he is. He won't keep calling if that's all you wanna talk about.
2006-10-24 08:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by snickers808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In God's eyes you are still married. And the child will bond you for life.
2006-10-24 08:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe you should lose some weight and get a bodyguard.
2006-10-24 08:20:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore all of his advances except when it comes to your child. when he gets off subject... ...hang up or tell him the conversation is over....you have to be stern.
2006-10-24 08:20:45 · answer #9 · answered by Carmen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, if you figure out the answer PLEASE pass it on to me!
2006-10-24 08:22:11 · answer #10 · answered by Whoagirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋