He has gone as far as saying untill I admitt what I have done he will not speak to me.he is vry controlling, checks my phone, tells his friends to watch me, and questions me about my whole day when he gets home. I s he feeling guilty ?
2006-10-24 08:15:30 · 16 answers · asked by DAZED DAISY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I dont know but he sounds very controlling & thats dangerous because it always escalates.I would get out or put him out.
2006-10-24 08:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a sure sign of desperation and insecurity. Whether or not he cheated is unknown and cannot be proven. It is also not the problem here. You have been together for 8 years, and you are having these problems? It sounds like a very unhealthy relationship. You should really try and seek some counseling. Make him explain to you why he has those untrusting feelings toward you. Ask him what can be done to change those feelings. no matter what happens, if you are unhappy and he does not change, you must take some time apart and thing about yourself. You still have your entire life ahead of you, don't let some selfish jerk hold you back any longer. I did it, and I ended up meeting a younger cuter richer nicer guy!
2006-10-24 08:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by SweeT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. If he has been your boyfriend for 8 years and that is as f ar as you have taken it, one has to wonder why.
2. Sounds to me as if you have got yourself one of those possessive, dominating sonofaguns. This type is usually so insecure in himself that he isn't even sure he has the ability to hold you. He probably has even told you once or twice that "nobody else w ould have you". He's more likely scared to d eath that you are the only one he's going to find who will put up with HIM. I certainly wouldn't. I would have his bags packed and send him on down the road before God got the news. Read the statistics on men like this. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with this kind of jerk? He is c ertainly not going to change because YOU are tolerating this behaviour, so you are enabling him to go right on doing this nonsense. Get the heck out from under, girlfriend. Take off, keep going and don't look back. This is NOT the way it's supposed to be. If you need help getting away from the guy, there are a lot of women's organizations around these days that will help you. It is easy enough to find out about one in your area. Trust me, they are there. Lot of good men out there too.
2006-10-24 08:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by sharmel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs medical help and you need to get out of this relationship. He accusing you so that you fear talking to strangers or being independent. He doesn't feel guilty. He feels powerful keeping you under his thumb. Ask several friends or family members to be at your home while you pack your belonging (this is for your safety), then leave and don't look back. Be prepared to change your phone number and make sure you have an answering machine and keep the tapes of his calls. It will help you get a restraining order.
2006-10-24 08:25:33 · answer #4 · answered by Lynn K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He iis trying to control you with guilt & girl it is going to get worse. Time you took yourself out of this. You don't want 8 yrs to turn in to 20 with this dude. Long hard yrs. & they are wasted yrs. You will never get those back. There is no respect in this relationship, whatever his motives. Good luck.
2006-10-24 08:28:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds mentally unstable. Break up FAST!!!! How can you allow a person to treat you like this anyway? Do you think you deserve better? Do you love yourself? think about it. It always seems like it is hard to go away but once you get outside of this relationship you will see how much better off you will be.
2006-10-24 08:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was going out with a woman who kept accusing me of cheating and was doing the things your boyfriend is, I would sit them down tell em the truth and given them an ultimatum either they believe me of believe what they believe, but do it some place else with some one else.
2006-10-24 08:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by Stephen F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I THINK that HE is the one doing something. most people who think that the other one is cheating has a guilty thought. if he is on you that bad then he is the one that is doing something. it could also be a job. like if you work at a job like--- hooters he could be jelous,or if he has a job that attracts girls like a bartenderhe could see what girls do when they go out and just think that you do the same thing. ...later
2006-10-24 08:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by shorty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he is feeling guilty but does not have the balls to admit it, but what scares me is that the way you have said it is exactly the type of relationship my sister was in and no matter what she did he got worse and it even lead to verbal and emotional abuse. so save yourself some tears and get out before its too late and you will never change him.
2006-10-24 08:20:16 · answer #9 · answered by lloydgberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds crazy. I would dump him. I had a girl friend like that. I was doing nothing but she made stuff up. I just dumped her. People like this are consumed with owning you. Better get out now before it becomes violent.
2006-10-24 08:18:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋