I have a male friend who I have known for about 2 years, and he has been coming over my house for about a year. He has been living with the mother of his 12 year old for 12 years. He has told me that she cheated on him 2 years ago, and that he'll never trust her again. He has said that they have nothing in common. About 2 months ago, he got married. He didn't tell me, another friend told me. When I ask him about it, he said that he forgot. He told me that he only married her for the kids, and that he isn't in love with her. Why would you think that he wouldn't tell me? Also, he has never shown my husband and I any pictures of his family. What do you make of this?
2006-10-24 08:13:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
either he is ashamed of it in some way (hiding it), or he wants something from you (he doesn't care about you as a friend but needs you in some way), or (oldest motive in the book) he fancies you and wants to appear attractive and single and such.
Best thee guesses. As a bonus guess, do you want it to be the third option, or are you genuinely clueless as to his motives?
2006-10-24 08:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several ways you could look at it. Especially since at the end I found out that you were a woman. That lent a lot to the solutions. 1) It could be that he is the actual problem in his relationship. If this is the case, then no you won't be meeting his wife anytime soon. Especially since in his version of the story she is the headache maker. 2) It could be he is embarrassed that he spoke so bad about her and still married her, so now his excuse is he did it for the children. He sounds very childish; he just made the biggest mistake of a lifetime, that is if he doesn't really love her. If he screws up anytime in this marriage, where he doesn't love his wife, he might as well sign his checks over to her now. He made a very dumb move. But it's obvious he needs her, because if my memory is correct, he lives with her right?
2006-10-24 08:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she understand this guy a on a similar time as formerly marrying him? with any luck so, yet I propose it is truly her existence and could be her mistake if it seems to be a bad marriage. Its o.k. to be harm with the help of this via fact that shes your buddy and could of instructed you. yet perhaps your buddy replaced into worried of absolutely everyone attempting to chat her out of it. i think of the final factor you're able to do on your buddy now's in basic terms be supportive and attempt to make certain it from her perspective.
2016-10-02 22:09:12 · answer #3 · answered by greenwell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like he's much of a friend at all.
Maybe he's interested in you, has he ever hinted about you two getting together?
Clearly he not being honest with you, sounds like he has a life you know nothing about and he doesn't want to inform you about it.
2006-10-24 08:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by snickers808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...my best friend got married...and didn't tell me either! That sucks. I believe its because he didn't want to hurt your feelings. He knows that what he is doing is wrong...and they're most likely going to end up in a divorce anyways! But...yea...hope it works out and stuff
2006-10-24 08:16:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he could have been embarassed or unhappy about it. Or maybe he was interested in more of a relationship w/you.
2006-10-24 08:16:36 · answer #6 · answered by DBL L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lovely friends you have, huh? I think you new friends who share your ideas relating to family values, honesty and marriage.
2006-10-24 08:16:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that may be true...for the kids. maybe he was a lil' ashamed of marrying her just for that reason. maybe he thought it wasn't a cool "guy" thing to do.
2006-10-24 08:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He forgot"?
I can understand not getting inveited to the wedding, but I think there is something weird going on with this
2006-10-24 08:15:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He made a mistake and is embarassed and sad, sshhheeeeetttt
2006-10-24 08:16:47 · answer #10 · answered by Leroy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋