My mother has beautiful expensive jewelry she got from her 2nd husband, who she married after my father died. When the 2nd husband died, we discovered that he was a pedophile and had raped my daughter when she was 2 years old until he died, when she was only 4 years old. I think my mother should get rid of all the jewelry he gave her, because it was chosen and given by him. We think she should just sell it and use the money however she sees fit, because money has no sentimental value. She insists that there is no reason not to wear the jewelry and, frankly, it makes me sick that she would want to wear it, now that she knows the truth about the monster she was married to.
2006-10-24 08:11:10 · 16 answers · asked by shoelet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How about melt the jewelry down and make new pieces of jewelry? Your mother obviously doesn't connect the jewelry to the man that gave it to her. Its just jewelry. The man did the crime not the jewelry and that the way your mother sees it. You have told her it bothers you and obviously she doesn't get it. Don't let it ruin your relationship. Just move on. At least he is dead he can't hurt anyone else.
2006-10-24 08:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, poor you. If it was myself, I would sell the jewelry and donate it to a children's charity. I agree with you that wearing the jewelry is sick. I don't know how you can convince your mom to change her mind about it though. She is really disrespecting your granddaughter. I personally would not let her see my daughter any more; I'd be too nervous to have my child around someone who directly or indirectly condones child abuse.
I'm so very sorry for you and you little girl.
2006-10-24 08:17:31 · answer #2 · answered by Gallifrey's Gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Peeing doesn't make me hard, but sometimes I can't explain why I get aroused when I do, but I do. In the middle of the day and early evening. Sometimes just a certain sexy thought, or seeing my wife do something that is kinda suggestive. Just stuff like that. And since I'm wide awake I'm horny. Like any guy. Then, night rolls around, it's late, the kids have been a pain to get down to bed and the mood is gone. Then, I'd rather just sleep. He may be the same.
2016-05-22 08:29:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have all of you gotten counseling for this?? IF you haven't you all should go. I would guess your mother is in denial. She may not be able to deal with the guilt she feels for not having known and stopping him. She didn't protect her grand daughter.
You should draw some boundaries. Tell her you will not see her when she is wearing the offensive jewelry. If she shows up wearing it, you leave or tell her to leave. Do not become angry or insulting, just leave.
you just do what is necessary to heal your daughter and yourself, hopefully your mother will get help for herself.
2006-10-24 08:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he was a monster and i am not sorry to hear he is gone your mother should get rid of that mans jewelry it makes me sick to here that she would want anything that belongs to that piece of #@&^*.
2006-10-24 08:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by L@M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jewelry is just a material object.. it carries no sentiment unless you make it. It's just jewelry! If she is saying she still loves him and that's why she wears it.. then I'd be mad. But if she just wears it and has acknowledged that he was a horrible sicko... then I see no problem. Getting rid of the jewelry won't change what happened.
2006-10-24 08:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow thats a deep question...But i am with you hun on this, it's like wearing the fruits of a robbery. I would feel like she was rubbing my nose in it. Is she in denial? Because being a women everything i've ever been given has sentimental value, and this Beast doesn't deserve this sort of Kudos from your mother. I have items that were given to me from a shite marriage, i remember how it was given to me, but who gave it to me doesn't deserve to be remembered with such fondness. With me being quite blunt at times i would have a 'talk' with my mother and say please do no wear that in my presence!
Good luck!
2006-10-24 08:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by untanuta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first person who answered. The jewelry should be sold and the money donated to a charity for children. However, it's your mother's decision. You can't force her to do what you want her to do. Don't drive yourself crazy over something you can't control.
2006-10-24 08:15:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Donate it to a charity or sell it on ebay and send the proceeds to a charity. Something good can come from something bad.
2006-10-24 08:15:22 · answer #9 · answered by sugarcarat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she believe that her husband was a pedophile? Or better yet does she care? Why would you even want anything around you that has anything to do with that man, after what he has done? She definitely needs to sell it or something! Or even throw it in the TRASH! The man wasn't worth more than trash anyway!!!
2006-10-24 08:16:45 · answer #10 · answered by panda 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋