I'm married to this guy and we also have a d aughter he's really a good guy but he's been to prison..

Question

We have been together for 6yrs and he used to be into drugs but he's straigtening his life up but he still has his past, how do we get people to look past that when we go for apartments or when he goes for job interviews???

Answer 1

You don't. People are cruel and judgmental regardless of the past. I would suggest that you find a respectable church where you guys can develop a new background. Any references that he could derive from that might help if you are truly genuine in your goals. It takes a lot of time - it is a shame, but people just don't forgive and forget. Hold your chin up and hang in there - you are on the right path.

Answer 2

Yup, takes time, but I know people in the same situation as far as interviews. Wish the past didnt stay with us.
Some companies dont do backround checks though, just gotta find the right one.
Try to get the cases expunged, that usually can get it 7 years after the crime.
As long as his report is good, who cares what people think about the past.

Answer 3

You have to cheat the system for an ex con to land a job that do back round checks. I think its unfair that ex cons won't get hired, this just leads them back in prison. But my suggestion is find a place or a job that don't do back round checks. If you can't then try to find some sort of trade maybe a contractor if not then head right back out on the coroner and push dat weight

Answer 4

go to those government emplyment agencies that help criminals talk their way through job interviews, usually little hubs located in a small building in the city, your local library or community action agency or united way in the phone book will know where to find these places, my friend did that and has been employed for two years straight by the same company. good luck sounds like you guys are doing well!

Answer 5

It'lll be ahrd for him to get stuff and get a job cause it'll be on his record for life... people will judge him for it no matter if he has changed or not. If u can't find an apartment in your area keep trying in other places. Or if u want to get an apartment fast try to get it under your name see if that works

Answer 6

IT IS ALWAYS A VERY DIFFICULT SITUATION..YOU SEE THIS IS WHAT SENDS PEOPLE BACK TO OLD WAY OF LIFE.THE GENERAL SOCIETY NEEDS TO GROW UP & LEARN TO LEND A HAND.NOT FUNDS,NOT MATERIALS (ETC) ONLY, BUT SUPPORTING PEOPLE TO MAKE A CHANGE IN THEIR LIFE FOR GOOD EITHER BY PROVIDING JOBS,DESTIGMATISING ILL-FATED / EARLIER-WRONG CHANNELLED PEOPLE ETC.THIS WILL LEAD TO A BETTER SOCEITY.BUT DON'T WORRY. WITH TIME THINGS WILL CHANGE. PEOPLE ARE ONLY APPREHENSIVE.LET HIM JUST CONTINUE ON A CLEAN PATH IN ALL THINGS.PEOPLE ARE STILL WATCHING.

Answer 7

well im asuming that he was in prison for drugs, then i would say if they ask tell them that hes clean now, etc.
i mean alot of jobs will be un-avalible. thats why jail is bad.
general builders jobs dont tend to mind though got a few mates who've gone to prison are now builders.

Answer 8

Every one has skelitons in there closet, it is too bad that it is still haunting him, I wish I knew of an easy way but honestly, I think it is going to take time for it to fall off his record, it's frustrating! Good luck to you

Answer 9

by looking past it yourself!
my showing who you are now.. and letting go of the past!
it may take time and some people may not see this! but if you bleive it it will happen!
i know it's hard! but don't give up!

Answer 10

Everyone but the saints make mistakes.the important thing is to learn frm our past and previous mistakes .Be honest and patient