Me and my fiancee are 18 years old people say we are to young to marry. Are we?

Answer 1

Age has nothing to do with it.

Answer 2

Yes, and here's why. Marriage requires maturity (you've already seen that in these answers) but a lot more than that. The pressures on marriage today are IMMENSE. The 3 most predominant causes of divorce are the things that would affect your marriage the most. They are: 1) Finances (young couples tend to spend every dime {and more} they make and that puts ENORMOUS pressures on you both to work out of debt); 2) sex (you are both still young and the attractions to the opposite sex can work against you in remaining faithful even when you want to) and 3) religious beliefs (if you have different spiritual goals this will cause MAJOR problems).

Your statistical chances at 18 are 1 out of 1.5 marriages surviving divorce. Most break up in the first 3 years due to the pressures above and the arrival of children (planned or unplanned).

You can make it ONLY if:
1. You have GOOD premarital counseling.
2. You have a strong emotional, psychological, and SPIRITUAL maturity.
3. You have a CONCRETE budget in place that you will stick with so that you do NOT get into debt over your head (that means a cheaper, older car, a modest apartment, used furniture, etc. or new stuff you pay CASH for--no credit or debt). If you enter marriage with debt you are asking for problems.
4. You have a GREAT support system with both of your families.
5. You KNOW that you KNOW that this is what you want and you are FULLY PREPARED to face challenges together (and you will have plenty).
Then, maybe, you are ready for marriage. Don't marry until you have gotten all the above stuff together. Waiting is better than divorce.

Answer 3

The simple answer is Yes. Just because the law says you're adults it doesn't mean you have the wisdom, maturity and life experience to handle the challenges of marriage. Even happy marriages are challenging. Anybody my age (36) will tell you that you change and grow SO much in your 20s; the people you are now may be in love, but the people each of you will be 5 or 10 years from now may not even be compatible.

That's not to say that it CAN'T work. My older sister got married at 19 and, 28 years later, they are still crazy about each other. But the statistics are against you. Since there's no really compelling reason to rush into marriage, at least think about a long engagement (like a few years) to give both of you a chance to experience adulthood before you take that plunge.

Answer 4

I was 18 when i got married. I have never regretted it a day of my life. I am 20 now. If you love him do it. Just know, that it is a lot of work. If you go into a marriage thinking you will make it and keep thinking it, things will work out. Its the days that you wake up, and have to force yourself out of bed, even if your mad at each other and realize that these are the good times. Realizing that is the hard part. Marriage is abotu give and take. If your mature enough, and responsible enough to realize that you are wrong then you can make it. Think of it as Divorce is NOT an option ever. You might get someone close to you, that is not opinionated in anyway and will help you work out things, once you start hitting the rough spots call them and talk to them. My dad was always there for me, and when i think i had had enough of it, i would call him, and he would let me know what he thought. He has been the biggest person that has helped me keep my marriage together. Would I have waited?? No. I love my life, i love my husband... and that is what keeps us together through the toughest times. They say that the first year is the hardest. Well.. our first 2 years have been equally as hard, but i am not ready to give up yet!

Answer 5

I am 18 and engaged, so I think that you are not to young to know how you feel about this girl, but to get married, there is a different story. Wait a few years. You need time to grow up a bit more and start to make your own lives before you can live together. I am waiting 4 years, and I know it seems hard now, but it is going to be worth it in the end!

Answer 6

Yes you are. My first husband and I were 18 & 19 respectively when we got married. There is a real maturity issue in "young" marraiges. You can be in love with someone, but not fully understand that person(as well as yourself) is still growing mentally and emotionally. You may share ideas now, but what about 5 years from now? Will you be ready to have a family when the other is trying to finish college? If you love each other, then waiting until you are truely responsible, self sufficiant, independent people won't hurt.

Answer 7

You may not want to hear this, but yes you are way too young to marry. Why the rush? If it's truly meant to be, no matter what, it will be. Take your time and enjoy the relationship. Go to college, start your career... in other words give it a couple more years and see where you guys stand and if both of you still feel the love you are feeling now. Good luck.

Answer 8

I would say yes. What's the rush? There are couples that marry that young and last but the odds are not on your side. You would be wise to be engaged for at least a year and have dated for a few before then. It takes a long time to get to know someone well enough to make this commitment and for the infatuation to wear off. If you really want to do this, please go to pre-marital counseling. It will help you to understand your differences and find ways to work them out. It will also help you learn how to argue constructively, which is necessary to remain in a relationship. Best of luck.

Answer 9

do you live together yet? if not i would strongly recommend it unless its not your religion or whatever. soooo many things come out and its really a different world. i wont say i think its to young or not thats not for me to say because im not 18 and getting married.you are. so dont worry about what other people say its your life and as far as missing out on things, yeah you might not go out with buddies every single day of the week but im sure you already dont. all the fun doesnt just come to a screeching halt once you get married despite what some people might say.as long as you get married when you and your fiance are ready(and hopefully engaged for a while) i say good luck on your marriage

Answer 10

Depends on how committed you are. I was 18, my husband 19. been together 10 years, married7, still in love. Takes a LOT of work. If you are right for each other, age doesn't matter. Question is are you mature enough to work REALLY hard for it. Because young or old it's a LOT of work, no matter how in love you are!!!! GOOD LUCK

Answer 11

You're asking this in the adolescent section--what do you think? Chances are, you are too young. Age doesn't really have anything to do with it though. Do you feel mature enough to handle a marriage? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with her? Are you financially able to purchase a home and support your fiancee through good times and bad? If your answer is "no" to any of those, then I'd wait. God bless.