What do you think about a mother who constantly tells her 6 yr old son that he is.............................

Question

an a s s hole? And a mother who yells at her 9 month old baby. Not gently tells him no, but YELLS! These are two aquaintances of mine and it absolutely bugs the hell out of me.

Answer 1

I think they are unfit parents, but they are common. I mean nine times out of ten they probably are thinking that is normal. But when the kid takes these negatives from them as normal then he becomes a potential danger to himself/society. Some kids can of course rise up and above it but why even have that as an obstacle in the first place. Sounds like someone isnt ready for motherhood, but they are there already and should just deal with it!

Answer 2

Calling CPS before even confronting your "aquaintances" can be even more damaging to the situation. Especially if theres is no physical abuse - - yes verbal abuse can be just as damaging but the DFCS and CPS are nothing to play around with. Unless you truly believe that these children are in abusive destructive homes and not being taken care of, why would you have someone's child taken from them?

I'd seriously hurt someone if they tried to take my child from me...

There is never any excuse for talking to children like that especially at that age, but I will say this many parents, homes, and even in family progaming - - are not raising their kids in a Barney "I love you" atmosphere and although "tough love" is presented you still know that there is love for the parents and children in the household.

Really watch television "Family" programming and parenting has changed these days eg. Rosanne, Reba, Home Improvement, Bernie Mac, Steve Harvey, that 70's show - - children & teenagers are not raised or talked to like the cookie box 7th Heaven, or Cosby show approach - - I guess it's all in presentation only you know if the situation is as serious as it is.

But try talk to her first: Tell her "girl I know kids these days can really be bad (6year old mother) and some people yell and talk to kids in place of hitting them." "And as much as you may want to tell the little ******* to sit their *** down before you kick their *** - -Try putting them into time out or taking away a favorite game because verbal abuse is just as damaging as if you hit em."

Now for the (9mth old mother) she sounds young and needs some direction yell back at her the next time she does it "DON'T ******* YELL AT THE BABY DUMBASS!!" she'll get the point... If her frustration is really serious where she is shaking the baby then yeah get her some help as quickly as possible!

Answer 3

You are not alone in that experience... there is a family member of mine that is that way... I do not know about where you are, but I have called our state family services and been told that unless the children are physicaly being abused there is nothing they can do... this so-called"mother" has been confronted by more than a couple of people and has been told to ....**** off and worse... some of us still try to keep contact with the little ones, age 4 and 2... but they have been very damaged by the verbal abuse and it will affect them the rest of their lives... The father just ignores and takes no active role in their lives... just food clothing and shelter.... There are far too many children existing like this...they are not just falling through the cracks... they are falling through like an avalanch

Answer 4

The first thing you should do is ask them both why they yell at their kids and call them abusive names. Do either one of them realize how much the yelling (psychologically) effects children? If they can't handle their own kids, without constantely yelling, then maybe they shouldn't have them. If this continues I would report them (anomalously) to Children's Protective Services.
Don't feel bad about doing this. It's obvious you know there is something wrong. It's just too bad the mothers don't.

Answer 5

You're concerned ... and rightfully so.

Don't bother saying anything to the mothers ... as you'll more than likely be the next target for their verbal abuse.

Call Child Protection Services and bring it to their attention. They will look into it, as sometimes verbal abuse is far more damaging than physical abuse. It also makes one wonder ... if these mothers yell and demean their children in front of someone else, what do they do when no one else is around?

In the mean-time, please keep a close eye on these women hun ... if you notice any bruises on those little ones, don't walk ... RUN to CPS!!

Answer 6

I agree with what some people said: call Child Protective Services or social services.

Shouting at a baby like that could harm his/her ears. The actions this mother is doing could also be indicative of other types of abuse going on behind closed doors.

Answer 7

they need to be reported...do they have someone that the kids can go stay with for a while to give everyone a chill out period..thoes poor children and what they are going through..the poor self esteem that 6 yr old must be going through...my heart breaks for them it really does..I have a very diffcult 8 yr old, and we have been through some doozy of situations but I would never degrade him by calling him names and yelling at the top of my lungs at him..talk to then get them some help

Answer 8

Take heart in the fact that children are natural mimics. The rectally challenged mother is going to be called that and she will also be called into her kid's school alot. The yeller will probably be the same way except her kid will be constantly given that "indoor/outdoor voice" speech.

Answer 9

nicely, i began out smoking at that age and nevertheless do at 26 (despite the fact that if I honestly have decrease some time past). i grew to become into caught some cases yet no longer likely punished as the two my parents smoked. he's seeing it as ok via fact it extremely is the norm in his domicile. according to hazard your son and your companion ought to arise with some variety of settlement with a reward after a undeniable volume of time no longer smoking. Or, do exactly it the old-shaped way, make him smoke an entire %. in one sitting.

Answer 10

I just answered another question about child discipline and was in favor of the discipline, although not knowing the circumstances. However in this case, this is a case of child abuse verbally. This parent needs to learn anger managment, stress managment, and proper child rearing. These statments will damage a child self image.