The "friend" in question was a co-worker of mine for years. We gossiped at work and stuff, but she never really hung out with us outside of work cuz her fiancee was bossy and controlling and didn't let her out much, which is why I encouraged her to leave him a few months ago. I offered her a place to stay and stored some of her stuff in my basement. She ended up staying with another friend of ours, and it's a damn good thing she did cuz she's turned out to be the most annoying person on Earth. Before you get all hassadiddy and BLAST me for being a bad friend, there are 6 of us who feel this way. It is nothing personal against this girl...she's very sweet and she means well. She just acts like a12 year old with ADD. (She's 26). We've gotten kicked out of places becuz of her. It's to the point where we're avoiding her calls, and I really DO feel bad for her, but I can't handle her company. Do I try to get them back together, even though I don't think it's what's best for her?
2006-10-24 07:42:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The first thing u can do is learn to mind your own damn business. i'll bet that u DID NOT have a man while u were givin all that great advice to her about her man.
Second u should stop referring to her as a friend, because real friends don't say thing's like "She's. . . the most annoying person. . ." or "We're avoiding her. . ." about their friends. with friends like u who needs enemies.
2006-10-24 08:01:17 · answer #1 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres a suggestion. Get rid of her and move on. Why would you even entertain the idea of keeping company with someone like this. Oh yeah, yeah...don't give me that "she's a friend" sh*t. Six of you know this person to act like a 12 year old. Plus...i have news for you baby. Any "friend" whose conduct got me bounced from a public place is no longer any person I'd run the risk of being in public with. On another note..keep your nose out of other people's romances. Unless you wish to incur the wrath of a jerked-off boyfriend. Honestly...do you really think any man who has a romance with her (from what you've descibed) is playing with a full deck anyway? This is precisely how lunatic ex-boyfriends get back at those they know (or even suspect) ruined their romance with the girlfriend. He'll come gunning for you and your pals.
So...you decide. Go out with six friends and have an enjoyable time or go with seven and get shut off or worse....arrested because your whacko friend did something that got you in hot water?
I know which way I'd go.
2006-10-24 08:39:26 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you never ever say yes leave or no don't leave. You listen,you sympathize and you can give an opinion but always tell them to do whats best for them and that you'll be there for them if they need a friend.There are 2 sides to every story.No you don't try to get them back together you've done enough don't you think. Look where your advice got you the first time.Learn from your mistakes
2006-10-24 07:54:13 · answer #3 · answered by Chipslady 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't abandon her now. Maybe he was being controlling because of her personality. Just get her back with her fiance and stay out of that situation. Next time maybe you should talk to both parties before you just listen to one. I'm not judging you I have been in this situation before and come to find out everything this person had told me was a lie! Just be careful when you encourage someone to leave who they are with. Good Luck!
2006-10-24 07:53:41 · answer #4 · answered by panda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have given her the way out but if she was happy where she was she would not have taken it. You should not feel obligated to hold her hand in any way.
If she is a friend as you say then you may try discussing how you feel about her behavior with her. Maybe she isn't aware of how she behaves. This will be tricky but try not to be accusatory. Just tell her how her behavior makes you feel.
2006-10-24 07:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is why people should mind their own Business (2 points TY)
2006-10-24 08:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by Ray D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have her find her own place to live and tell her to start dating other guys. it would be too evil to encourage her to hook up with her ex fiance
2006-10-24 08:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by casj2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find her another guy to be with.
2006-10-24 07:45:52 · answer #8 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
akohna matata.
wit luv, Nik
2006-10-24 07:45:11 · answer #9 · answered by nik 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no problems,i'd say...you just got her outta a bad life...and got yourself into sh*t
2006-10-24 08:17:04 · answer #10 · answered by hsinava 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋