Another baby?

Question

Okay, I have a two year old son, and a one month old baby girl. My husband is wanting to have a vasectomy, doesn't want more children. And, that's what I thought, too. But, the more I think about it, the more I want just one more. Not right now, but later on. But I can't help but think it's because mine will no longer be an infant. How do you know if you want another because you want another, or because you miss having a baby around? Am I making the right decision?

I'm only 21.

Answer 1

if i was u i would wait till your older your only 21 and you have 2 children you should slow down and injoy your youth before you go having a third child

Answer 2

Wow, sounds like my situation a few years ago. He had the vasectomy anyway and now we BOTH regret it. Me more than him though. My suggestion is that even if you never have more children, it would be better NOT to have the vasectomy until you both are positive that you are done having children. Don't agree to him having it until you know for sure with out a doubt that you have enough children. It's not easy to reverse I understand and I'm understanding pretty expensive too. Convince him you'll stay on the pill or some other form of birth control until you're ready to make a decision one way or another. Also, your children are still to young for you to be making that sort of decision right now.

Answer 3

I would wait on doing something permanent. After I had my second child I got an IUD put in which was as close to permanent as I was willing to go. My situation changed shortly thereafter, and I decided to have another baby, so I had the IUD removed. My daughter was born about a year after that. You never know what might happen in the future, and if you arent 100% sure, you shouldn't make a decision you'd regret later. On the other hand, you could have kids with someone else, lol.

Answer 4

I don't know, hon. Men are a little difficult to deal with sometimes. You sound lucky to have number two. My husband wont budge yet. He thinks he may not even want another. My son is 27 months old...I feel time to have another...he's not ready..ahhh

I look at it this way. At least your son and daughter have each other. If you have two perfectly healthy babies and your husband don't want more, why push it. I would do anything just to have one more.
Hard to change a man's mind. He does, after all, have more responsibility with more children too..

Good luck with this.
Hope I've helped.

Answer 5

My husband and I thiught the same thing, but then we realized we will want more so i had an IUD put in. It lasts for up to 10 years. And then after that we will get him "fixed" I also had a girlfriend whos husband was "fixed" and they decided to try again. Their insurance would'nt cover the reversal so they went with invitro. They took his own sperm through needle(ouch!!) The yare now expecting twins in jan. Make a wise decision, I plan on having the IUD removed as soon as we want another one. And theres no waiting in having the IUD removed.

Answer 6

it's the vasectomy reversible? I think it is..

let him do it and when the time is right, if you still feel you want more children in the future, then try it again...
or just tell your husband to wear a condom until you at least you both agree if u do want another child or not.

Answer 7

Well, try to spend some more time with ur kids and understand the new things u will experience. after a while like after 40 it is hard to have a baby due to the stress put on ur body. as children get older, new milestones come in. You don't want to have a child and hten wish you didn't once he/she isn't a ababy anymore. Also, consider ur husband's opinion. If you just focus on what is going to come next in ur current children's life, you will be able to tell if you if you really want nother kid.

Answer 8

Your youngest is only 1 month. I would wait on the vasectomy for a few years anyways... 2 anyway. Go on birth control for now, and see how you both feel about it later.

Answer 9

You don't have to decide right now, Use good birth control!! you have time to think about it. Make a pro's and con list, both of you then sit down, compare them and talk. I looked at it like if I have more will I be able to provide a good life for this child (college) things like that. and remember everyone has there own opinion on the definition (provide) some its money others its love. good luck

Answer 10

I have had three children and after my last one, the pregnancy and delivery went really well, i thought I wanted another so I gave it some time and finally realized I didn't want to go through the waking up every couple hours, washing and sterlizing bottle you know "all the fun stuff" think of the extra laundry. You seem to just know.

Answer 11

I think you and your husband should sit down and talk about this. If one of you is not sure then maybe you should just go on birth control until the two of you agree.