2006-10-24 07:42:04 · 14 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Theirs no easy way out of that situation, also the relation ship between you and your friend will change as well.
2006-10-24 07:44:50 · answer #1 · answered by The infamous bongblaster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kara, I must say that I am proud of you (seriously). To leave an abusive relationship behind and first of all to admit to to being in an abusive relationship takes a lot of guts. Most people stay because they think it will get better (it doesn't) I know that you have noone to talk to because of the decision you made 2 years ago. It was your decisiona and at that point you felt it was right. We all make mistakes, I feel awful that your friends just abandoned you like that, but its their loss. You can make new friends, and create a new beginning for yourself and your child. I know that you feel alone and pregnant and need some emotional support - this is a baggage that one cannot carry alone. Your mom will come around, she does not see how much she is hurting you by saying I told you so. Like I said - mistakes happen. Its a blessing that you did not have a child and stay with him because I promise you - if you go back and you have the baby he will not only mentally abuse you - but he will do that same to your baby, or even worse hit him/her. And on top of taking care of a newborn, you wont need additional stress in your life or abuse. By him cheating on you - he shows you mean nothing to him. And Im sure in your psychology class you will learn that individuals who forbid you to use basics of communications and are insecure do so because they have something to hide. They become abusive and "flip the script" because of the wrongs they are doing. Keep your head up and I will add you onto my friends list as well - email me if you have the need to talk. Im 29 weeks along myself, and although I have a great relationship with my husband (I have been there, left the bastard after 3 years and found an amazing person, even changed friends and had family issues over him) but there is light at the end of the tunnel. Just keep your baby and yourself as your #1 priority ") You did the right thing.
2016-05-22 08:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a child when i was 14 and now he is 10yrs old. I feel the way you do sometimes cause many men are looking to start their lives with women who do not have children. But in reallity if this guy is ur friend he would accept the fact that u have a child so just tell him as it is. Better now than later.
2006-10-24 07:49:36 · answer #3 · answered by Cleo-Petra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your child first and don't worry about screwing up a relationship with some "guy friend". What are your priorities? I would most definitely put my children at the top of my list.
2006-10-24 07:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by R G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think your friend is going to change towards you because you have a child than he ain't a friend now is he?! If you think there could be more than friendship than you need to be honest with your friend. Even just being friends you need to be honest!!! And why hide something you love and that is part of you!! Your child is going to be with you a long time. Who knows you & your friend may not even work out!
2006-10-24 08:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by adamsjeeps 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's your best guy friend, shouldn't he already know?
Is not screwing up a man's opinion is more important than telling the truth? Are you ashamed? Say "I have a child."
2006-10-24 07:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell that right away but don't continue to remind him about the kids. Don't worry about screwing things up as if he doesn't like kids the sooner he finds out and you find out if he will or won't like to be around you the better. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
2006-10-24 07:51:05 · answer #7 · answered by Scott 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a friend why does it matter!? And if it does.. SEE YA!!! You should never be ashamed of having a child. If he has a issue with it that's his problem!!
2006-10-24 07:45:00 · answer #8 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is just a friend, you shouldn't have any problems. if telling him you have a child does, well he's not a friend now is he?
2006-10-24 07:44:41 · answer #9 · answered by firey_cowgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't you should have been told him and if he chooses to let you go then you have to deal because you should have been honest in the first place. I know it doesn't sound good but just be honest with him about how you feel about him and let your feelings show. It will be okay.
2006-10-24 07:45:11 · answer #10 · answered by kiki_t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋