Okay, here goes. I always have to pick up a friend of mine for work. We work 6 days a week, and realistically, it's only about 3 blocks away. Btu he's never ready to go to work when I am, and sometimes I'm sitting there for 15 minutes honking the horn waiting. And when we get out of work, I'm waiting on him too. What really MAKES ME ANGRY is, he acts like he doesn't want to get a vehicle. He spent 250 the other day at Best Buy when he could have put it on a car. I'm enraged and need serious help from anyone who cares about people who get taken advantage of. What are some things I can do...I can't do this anymore, it's gone on for a year or so, and he's becoming a leech of sorts. I just feel bad about it, because he made me his best man at his wedding and considers me his only "real" friend.
2006-10-24 07:35:29 · 15 answers · asked by jokerscard692000 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He's made me late once. Just he wait until he does it one more time. One time shame on him, twice; shame on me. I've actually left before and he called my cell halfway to work. I didn't answer.
2006-10-24 07:40:25 · update #1
first you need to stop being a doormat. next you need to give him time to get a car and after that length of time and no car, introduce him to public transportation. if you lose friendship over him being a leech than that wasnt much of a friendship anyway.
2006-10-24 07:59:53 · answer #1 · answered by toyloy27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop the guilt. While waiting for him for 15 minutes, you both could have walked the 3 blocks to work. He may honestly think of you as his friend, but he has as issue with being late; and it shows lack of respect for you. Let him know the truth. Let him know how frustrating it is for you. You'll be doing him a favor. I'm sure this is not the only time he's late. He needs to build some discipline in that area. Taking advantage of someone is not good for friendships. He probably doesn't see it as taking advantage of you, because you have allowed it. Set some boundaries. If he's a true friend, he'll listen to you.
2006-10-24 14:43:07 · answer #2 · answered by danaluana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants you to be his best man but unfortunatlly his bride to be doesnt realize that he is not much of man I think your more of a man as far as being responsible if he went to best buy and spent 250.00 then he doesnt have the same sense of responsibility as you do I had a freind of mine I helped for many years and I just finally had to stop some people are better at telling other people off so I know its hard seems like you need to work something out maybe you could find another job or move its easy to get rid of people the best way is to lend them money he put in 250 and you put in 250 for a down payment on a car if he doesnt pay you back well it just cost you 250 to get rid of an annoying problem you will feel alot better and if he doesnt do it then have the right to stop helping him the very best thing you could do is tell him directly to his face when your sitting around having a beer dont do it when your pissed that will just get nasty if he respects you enough to be his best man good that shows that he should at least hear you out
2006-10-24 14:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by Daniel S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Poor you. He has stuck you in an awkward spot. Tell him everything, he might get mad at first but hopefully he will come around to see your side of it. You can't tell him how to spend his money, but ask him to pitch in for the gas to/from work. For the A.M. pickup, tell him to walk the 3 blocks to your house so you can at least wait for him in comfort. For the P.M. drive tell him your going around the corner for a coffee and he can walk there to meet you. He sounds lazy so I assume he will speed up so as not to walk. Worse case scenario, start taking the bus, he may find someone else to get rides from.
Good Luck!
2006-10-24 14:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by GreenGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to by a car for work and leave him to handle this alone
ur not hes driver.ur just a friend maybe a too good one
2006-10-24 14:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that it irratates you when you have to wait on him. Tell him that he needs to be considerate of your time and be ready when you get there. Maybe leave him behind one time. Sounds to me like he is taking advantage of you.
2006-10-24 14:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,you should talk to him..Why don't you try to make him be ready on time..?If you feel like a 'real' friend with him then you should discuss it with him and find a solution..He has to understand you..
Good luck!
2006-10-24 14:42:39 · answer #7 · answered by Elli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Public transportation.
2006-10-24 15:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you're being a friend and he's not. sit down with him and talk about it. try not to be confrontational, but just explain to him how it bugs you. hopefully he'll understand, if not. i'd remove that leech from my life.
2006-10-24 14:45:39 · answer #9 · answered by T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a bus schedule and tell him to find a new best friend.
2006-10-24 14:38:52 · answer #10 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋