advice on Not having a miscarriage (No guesses please!)?

Question

It's crazy cause about 3 weeks ago I had hit rock bottom, I was mourning the loss of my baby,(just this past easter sunday), and thinking it would take me at least another year to conceive, I asked a similar question and got very potitive answers, advice, and methods.

I thought it would still take a few months, but my period did not come on this month and my period is very regular and always has been.

I am sooooo happy, but at the same time learning from my past mistakes, and not thinking fuzzy thoughts or buying baby gear, he people who know is me, my fiance, and my mother. Whereas before everybody knew.

I'm very early in my pregnancy and was wondering if anyone knew anything I could do, or should not do rather, to try and keep this baby in me.

I usually miscarry around my 7th weeks. I'm a waitress and I'm tempted to quit my job and try to stay off my feet until at least the 8th week.

I made an appointment and my doctor is swamped, She can't see me till nov 3.

well like I said I can't get to the doctor today and a man who may be an OBGYN is still a man and only knows things from a doctors prospective.


I very much take into considertion what a woman who has also had 2 miscarriages and had since had healthy babies, have to say.

experience always beats what someone in taught and it told to do, so get you mind right and mind ur own business if you don't have an answer to my very serious and important question.


KOHLI!!!
Mind urs!!

Answer 1

I had to get on oral progesterone. I had three miscarriages and the fourth pregnancy I got put on progesterone and one baby aspirin a day. I always miscarried at five to six weeks. I took progesterone and one baby aspirin for three of my other pregnancies and they were successful. I would call and ask your doc about progesterone and baby aspirin immediately!!!!

Answer 2

You can never predict when you are going to miscarry.....or IF, for that matter. You could miscarry ANY time during your pregnancy. I have been pregnant 4 times. The first I miscarried at 10 weeks, the second I carried full term, the third I miscarried at 16 weeks, the fourth I carried full term. I have 2 healthy boys ages 6 & 2.

I understand how you feel.....being hesitant about announcing that you are pregnant. You and the baby's father are REALLY the only two people who need to know "right now." Everyone will know when you start showing!

You might want to rethink quitting your job. You could quit, be fine until week 8, and then not be able to find a job you like. OR you could quit your job and miscarry anyway. Your job doesn't determine the longevity of your pregnancy, your body does. I truly believe there is a reason why we lose some babies thru miscarriage. It may be our bodies telling us there was something wrong.

Be frank and truthful with your doctor. Ask many, many questions. Good luck!

Answer 3

Hi, I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks about 2.5 years ago. I was sent home after being told that my miscarriage would happen naturally (after driving to hospital 5 hours away) and at the time was just bleeding like a period. The next morning I had my 'proper' miscarriage and it was like a mini-labour, I got cramps and was in quite a bit of pain, so much that I couldnt stand I squatted in the shower. 6 weeks it should not be as bad as my 11 week one because I lost so much blood and tissue my bathroom looked like a murder scene and the bleeding wouldnt stop so I had to be flown to hospital : ( I am sorry for your loss, I have had three miscarriages - the previous 2 were a lot earlier and they were a lot less traumatic so hopefully whatever comes out for you will only be small and not too painful.

Answer 4

Unfortunately, unless you know WHY you've had a miscarriage it's tough to prevent it. (Actually, it's tough to prevent a miscarriage anyway. But since some are caused by fetal abnormalities or by undiagnosed infections, you could screen embryos or take prophyllactic medication if you knew what caused your particular situation.)

I don't think that staying off your feet will help. Recent studies have shown that bed rest in women much further along has little effect, so I can't imagine that it would matter much at 8 weeks?

Sorry. Hope it works out better this time.

Answer 5

They didnt determine why you are spontaniously aborting your pregnancies? Did they check your cervix and the health of your uterus? they checked your blood type, and the fathers to make sure your immune system isnt attacking the fetus? if those things are normal then theres little you can do to avoid a miscarriage on your own.

Stay healthy, stress free, and continue on as regular is the best thing you can do when pregnant. But if you're a waitress you might want to consider turning in your apron until after the baby, and find something less physical to be productive doing.

Just relax and stay healthy, the more you worry over it (i know its impossible not to) the worse you make it for you and baby.

LOL! reaching up doesnt make the cord wrap around the baby's neck. hehe. Thats an old wives tale. Like you dont have enough to worry about.

Answer 6

If it makes you feel better, quit your job for a while. I know I wouldn't go to work if I was worried about my growing baby, and I didn't! I quit working at ten pregnant due to health reason, and I haven't regretted because I now have a healthy daughter.
Take your prenatal vitamins, rest, and see if there is another doctor who can see you, or push for an emergency appointment with your doctor...you should be ale to see her if you push hard enough.
Don't do anything strenuous, and avoid stress if possible...maybe you should try a bit of bed rest. You need to convey to whatever doctor you are exactly how worried you are for your baby's health, and you may find they put you on sick leave due to potential stress or something like it.

I wish you all the very best for your pregnancy and I pray that you will have a different outcome than all your previous pregnancies.

Answer 7

I lost a son on Jan. 16th of this year and I just knew that it would take me a long time to get over and be ready for a new baby. I'm now 9 weeks pregnant and having some issues, but the baby looks great. My doctors advice to me was take it easy, stay off my feet as much as possible (since I have an office job it's a bit easier for me than you) and no heavy lifting, I have three toddler girls so that part has been difficult, but he says the better care I take of myself the better my body will be able to care for my unborn baby. Just relax, I try not to compare this pregnancy with my last but it happens, I miscarried at 16 weeks and until I pass that point I know I'm going to be very overly paranoid, but try your best to relax, and really take care of yourself at this point. Good luck to you and your baby! :)

Answer 8

I heard about my mom's neighbor miscarring and the factors are gravity, on feet for a long length of time, it was meant to be? Ok, gravity means sitting down for a few minutes with feet up, destress. Try gel inserts and sturdy comfortable shoes...Staying off your feet for one extra week is an ok idea but you could miscarry or near miscarry anytime during the pregnancy for alot of reasons. Some reasons could be catching yourself off balance because of the extra weight in front...infections, no known cause...You are being very wise about how you are handling the situation. Pregnancy has its good times and rough times for a man and woman. Prayers

Answer 9

You might have to quit your job until you're a little more stable, and see if your doctor wants to put you on high risk once you're able to see him. You should definately take it easy, dont overdo it, but just make sure you arent doing a lot of physcial activity at this point. Also, dont stress about it, because the stress can make matters worse as well. Just take it one day at a time, ok?

Answer 10

being a waitress is a tedious job..n as u already had a miscarriage..i wud recommend that u stay off feet till u enter ur 12 week. the first 3 months r always difficult as most of the women dont know whether they r pregnant or not.