Your wife/husband passes on to a better place. You finally decide to marry again. Though you loved your spoused very much, you find that you love your new spouse even more. You and your deceased spouse had already bought a jointed grave site and head stone. If your new spouse wants you to be bared by them, which one do you pick?
2006-10-24 07:24:58 · 48 answers · asked by lifescircle 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is a really tough question. I think it is important that you make a compromise. Use the same plot to house both your current wife, your first wife, and yourself. You will have to think long and hard on where they/you will be laid. This will be a place for your kids, and others who you have left behind to visit you. All of them will have a connection to you, some of them will be connected to your first wife and some to your second. In the afterlife, it will not matter, so you have to think of those you left behind. Tough question.
2006-10-24 07:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by Bill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to love your new spouse differently. I would have to say it is a very personal decision but if it were me, I would replace the headstone with your deceased spouse to an individual headstone. If you didn't it would be very disrespectful. Your new spouse should understand that you want to replace it and be supportive of that decision. It is 100% ok to be buried with your new spouse. If you have small children, I would caution you to be sensitive to their feelings and try to make some accommodations on timing for their understanding.... Good luck.
2006-10-24 07:32:18 · answer #2 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not be buried next to both?? The new spouse can be on one side of you and the departed one on the other side, with you in the middle between the new and the dead one. After all, when you all are gone on to your reward, it really won't matter much what it looks like in this world. The other world makes this one look really bad any way it is shown.
2006-10-24 07:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your new spouse is such a great person then she would be willing to let you be buried beside your late wife and have the new wife on the other side of you. My grandmother died a few years ago and my grandparents bought joining plots just as you did....well my grandfather remarried....he died last year but not before he bought his new wife the plot to the other side of him...i am not too sure how my grandmother would of felt about this but it was okay with the second wife......try talking to yours to find out how she feels about this!!!!
2006-10-24 07:30:57 · answer #4 · answered by polarbaby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really don't know what is going to happen in the future so maybe misfortune or good fortune.. sorry your wife died and just leave the problem alone for the time being maybe a situation will happen and you will get an answer.. so pray for the answer once in awhile if it bothers you... sounds like you feel guilty for loving again and its sometimes easier to tell yourself that you love this one more and now.. Well wow dude what a problem. Sorry you lost your wife.
2006-10-24 07:30:53 · answer #5 · answered by audine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once we have passed, it makes no difference where our bones rest. The need to be "buried next to each other" is a need we have while living, not when we are dead.
If you can afford it, go ahead and buy a plot beside your new wife, too, and then, if there is no third wife, your family can make the decision which plot to place you in.
The living are the only people who are concerned with this kind of decision.
2006-10-24 07:29:33 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know your first wife has a big place in your life, but i do believe that past is past... whatever you and your deceased spouse went through is etched in your soul, but you have to consider who is with you at the present so what i can suggest is you keep and cherish the memory of your departed wife but take into consideration the life you are living and the life that you are about to live with your current wife.. i think you should not choose, just stand up for the present(",)!! good luck!!
2006-10-24 07:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by yuki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! That's tough. It all depends on if your new wife knows that that was what you promised your loss. With all do respect, you made a promise to your passing wife that you wanted to do that for each other. You shouldn't of made that decision in the first place, not to be rude. If I was in this situation I would of wanted my other half to move on and find additional love, not lose what we had. Hey. I can't be there. If someone could love you just as much as I did. Then so be it, but don't forget your roots. Would you want her to be buried with you if it was you who passed first and she found someone else?
2006-10-24 07:33:01 · answer #8 · answered by luv4airy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the type of spouse you have. If you being buried next to your ex bothers your spouse then change your burial plot it's not like your ex is really going to care. (assuming money is not an issue) otherwise leave it alone.
2006-10-24 07:34:25 · answer #9 · answered by jeleaya82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd pick a grave with the new spouse
2006-10-24 07:28:23 · answer #10 · answered by martin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋