my son wants to change school because he fills the coaches does not like him what should i do?

Question

have watch my son play on JV for 2 years they are undeated and he makes pics intersection and touchdown all the time. great receiver people always ask why isn't he on varsity. I thought at once it was his age he is only 16 but then 2 coaches on the varsity team as told my other son that he should go to another school if he wants to play and the other coach told my husband that he is the best player they have on the team but they don't like his attitude. My son is a happy child when I say happy I mean happy he is always up beat joy ful and all the kids love him. I believe that the coaches think he is not serious because he is so happy but i can't see why because he is always at every pratice and summer camp and plays the game well and he also wants to go to college. need help please

Answer 1

well the first thing i would do is go over there and talk to the coach personally and see what his outlook on the whole situation is. maybe your son is as goood as you say he is but maybe either the coaches think ohterwise or there are players that play better than him or have better sportsmansip... i dont know but like i said the first thing i would do is go talk to the coach myself

Answer 2

I don't think changing schools is the answer. Changing schools, unless the problem is REALLY bad, would be running from your problem. Who knows? Maybe the coaches at the next school would have the same attitude toward your son. Then what?

They might be holding him back on the JV team because they need SOME good players on that team. You didn't say - but I'm assuming he is a Sophmore. It's not rare for kids to play on the JV team for the first two years of high school and then on Varsity for their Jr. & Sr. years.

Did you husband say WHAT it was about your son's attitude that the coaches don't like? I think that is key. Find out what is bothering them - and then sit down - possibly with the coaches and your son and see where you can go from there. If your son is willing to change his behavior in order to get along with the coaches and move along in the sports program, then he'll do what's necessary. He might not want to make changes though - because he's proud of who he is - and it feels good in his heart. And that should be acceptable.

Again - changing schools is not the answer. Think of your son's future. You say he wants to go to college. Well, after he's out of college and he has a career, is he going to change jobs everytime there is somebody at his place of employment who doesn't like his attitude? That would be crazy. One of the biggest lessons in life is learning to get along with others, while not lowering your standards and standing up for what you believe. I think that's the message you want to give you son - and changing schools will not promote that message at all.

Good luck & God bless!

Answer 3

Best player on the team, but they dont like his attitude. Here lets see if this explains his attitude, knows he is the best player on his team and isnt afraid to let everyone around him know it, demoralizes other players on his team by filling them in on how great of a player he is and how they wouldnt win games without him. Still he could be happy and always show up to everything, but if your the best your expected to help the other players. He may not do that, he feels he worked hard on his own so they should too. If he is a sophomore he will probably play Varsity next year. If you want to transfer him to another school, for football reasons he will miss all of next season(in my state he would)so you may want to think about it.

Answer 4

Tell your son that is he is acting like a show-off to not do that anymore and to try to encourage the team mates to play better and to compliment them if they are trying as hard as he is. It could also be that you have some 'win at all costs' coaches and if he is the best player they have on the team they want to keep him. It's hard to be 16 years old nowadays, so you encourage him to just hang in there, cause he can't be changing schools all the time.

Answer 5

Tell him to stick it out they might be testing him and seeing how he will react to having to keep working hard even when he is really good. Tell him to stick with it be a good team player hell tell him to suck up a little bit like help players out who need help. Let the coach see that he is about the team and is a good guy. That's what I did and I have been a Varsity starter in b-ball for 2 years now.

Answer 6

coaches are there to give your child a hard time. They prepare them for the game make them "bulk up" if you will.

Its how they stay undefeated and if your son really wants to play football talk to him and say hey the coaches arent your dad they are there to give you incuragement, their there to win games. Not baby your kid.

Answer 7

Where do you live? I will come to your school and teach the coach a lesson.. He will learn to respect you and your kid.. All I ask is you provide me with a plane ticket and a place to stay.. I will rearrange this clowns face

Answer 8

Listen to your child's instincts. Don't ignore them. Talk and go over every point and counter point with him. With your input, he will then make the best decision for himself. If we really think about it, these decisions are so insignificant to his overall life. Remove all parental pressure from his decision making and you'll see what great choices he will make.